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Saturday, November 21, 2009

How often do you use the “we” when referring to you and your significant other

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

My friend Leila came to visit from Arizona last Friday. We’ve known each other since freshman year at USC. I’ve seen her about 3 times per year, every year since graduation and still she—as well as everyone else from those days—says to me, “Your hair is so dark. Who’s doing your color these days?”

I said, “For the thousandth time, this is my natural color! This is what I really look like.” I love that everyone from the west can’t seem to grasp that I would leave something natural. Maybe I was more of a follower back in college. (Here I am as a blonde.)

Can you tell which of these ladies color their hair?

You know what else is funny about people you haven’t seen in a while? I was just talking to Suzanne, a friend I hadn’t heard from in months, and she busted out the “we.” As in, “We’re great. He’s off to London tomorrow, so I’m trying to plan my weekend.” I was like, “We? He?” It’s a little annoying when acquaintances bust out the “we” without first mentioning or naming the boyfriend.

I guess I’m supposed to remember my friend Suzanne is a “we” now. I doubt that men do this. (Maybe Ryan can shed some light.)

Do you use the “we” when you haven’t spoken to someone in a while? Is it habit? Do you think of your life in relation to someone else all the time? I can’t even remember what it’s like.

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by Erin Meanley

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  • Katie B's Avatar
    Posted by Katie B Thu Jul 9, 2009 8:54am PDT

    Almost constantly... But most everyone knows that I am married that I talk to...

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  • Katrina's Avatar
    Posted by Katrina Thu Jul 9, 2009 8:55am PDT

    One on the left colors. I keep my natural color.

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  • Cherish's Avatar
    Posted by Cherish Thu Jul 9, 2009 10:02am PDT

    your blog is confusing

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  • Sandra's Avatar
    Posted by Sandra Thu Jul 9, 2009 12:27pm PDT

    I love the "we're pregnant" comment from friends. Like the two of them somehow share the burden of carrying the child. It should be "My wife is pregnant with my child. I helped with the conception."

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  • opiniononly's Avatar
    Posted by opiniononly Thu Jul 9, 2009 2:57pm PDT

    He is he and I am me and we are we. It's that simple for him and me and us and all three of us agree.

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  • Mo_c_mo33's Avatar
    Posted by Mo_c_mo33 Thu Jul 9, 2009 8:49pm PDT

    I am single, therefore no 'we'. I must say though, it is INFURIATING! I absolutely cannot stand it when someone says "We think.." or "We feel..." in response to a question I posed to that ONE PERSON. Unless I'm asking about you and your whomever, please respond with 'I' and fill in details as necessary. (I'm great, thanks for asking. I've been with an awesome guy...) Also, "we're pregnant". No. She's pregnant. You stuck it in her.

    And to answer your question, (clearly :) ) I don't think of my life in relation to someone else all the time. I will NEVER bring out the 'we' like that, and if whoever gets me pregnant says "we're pregnant", we're not going to be a 'we' very long.

    (Sorry, your post was just let go a rant I've been thinking off for a while)

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  • 's Avatar
    Posted by Fri Jul 10, 2009 11:24am PDT

    We is a good term.

    When my boyfriends mother asks me What do you two thing?, I answer for the both of us, but when she ask What I think?, I answer for myself and ask my boyfriends opinion.

    I hope my boyfriend says, We're Pregnant, because it would make me happy. I want him to feel involved and when he says "we're pregnant it kinda takes all the pressure off me.

    Pregnancy makes me happy. Anything which makes you happy, you don't care what other people say.

    I wouldn't want my boyfriend to go"Shes pregnant"...puts too much pressure on me. We both are together and yes I am pregnant but hes suffering through the pain with me and being happy at the same time.

    If hes is there

    holding my hand during labor or trying to relax me.

    If he waits the hours during labor with me.

    If he gets me food in the middle of the night while I'M pregnant.

    IF he loves me and takes care of dirty diapers after the baby is born...

    I think he has the right to say"We're/ We were pregnant and This is OUR child.

    What is in my belly belongs to the both of us.

    And, words are just words.. if you let little things like words irritate you aren't going to be happy.

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  • ♥YogurtLover♥™'s Avatar
    Posted by ♥YogurtLover♥™ Fri Jul 10, 2009 11:35am PDT

    All the time... and then aliendude asks me if I have a mouse in my pocket.

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  • Rachel's Avatar
    Posted by Rachel Fri Jul 10, 2009 2:42pm PDT

    single people always get bitter about the whole "we" thing. it's jealousy

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  • 's Avatar
    Posted by Sat Jul 11, 2009 2:55am PDT

    oh

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