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Thursday, December 10, 2009

How often do you use the “we” when referring to you and your significant other

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

Fun fact: Leila has visited NYC every year of her life (and she is as young as me).

My friend Leila came to visit from Arizona last Friday. We’ve known each other since freshman year at USC. I’ve seen her about 3 times per year, every year since graduation and still she—as well as everyone else from those days—says to me, “Your hair is so dark. Who’s doing your color these days?”

I said, “For the thousandth time, this is my natural color! This is what I really look like.” I love that everyone from the west can’t seem to grasp that I would leave something natural. Maybe I was more of a follower back in college. (Here I am as a blonde.)

Can you tell which of these ladies color their hair?

You know what else is funny about people you haven’t seen in a while? I was just talking to Suzanne, a friend I hadn’t heard from in months, and she busted out the “we.” As in, “We’re great. He’s off to London tomorrow, so I’m trying to plan my weekend.” I was like, “We? He?” It’s a little annoying when acquaintances bust out the “we” without first mentioning or naming the boyfriend.

I guess I’m supposed to remember my friend Suzanne is a “we” now. I doubt that men do this. (Maybe Ryan can shed some light.)

Do you use the “we” when you haven’t spoken to someone in a while? Is it habit? Do you think of your life in relation to someone else all the time? I can’t even remember what it’s like.

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by Erin Meanley

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  • Elu's Avatar
    Posted by Elu Sat Jul 11, 2009 6:41am PDT

    Is it wrong for a man to have a sugar baby \?? It is an absolutely extramarital relationship, but more and more services come out on Internet focusing on this kind of relationship, such as ——____Meet Wea lthy com_____~~~~~~~~~~~.

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  • Kingsley's Avatar
    Posted by Kingsley Sat Jul 11, 2009 11:59am PDT

    HI PEOPLE OUT THERE I LOVE U ALL

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  • Meisam's Avatar
    Posted by Meisam Sun Jul 12, 2009 5:20am PDT

    سلام من میثم از اصفهانم یه کس ناز می خوام

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  • Meisam's Avatar
    Posted by Meisam Sun Jul 12, 2009 5:31am PDT

    بده بکنم توکست

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  • VictoriaB's Avatar
    Posted by VictoriaB Mon Jul 13, 2009 5:28am PDT

    "We" people just prove that marriage is that important step in life when two people join together to become one desperately boring person...

    And no, single people aren't jealous...I know plenty of great couples (married or otherwise) that don't "we" everything. It's about maintaining a separate identity.

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  • Benita's Avatar
    Posted by Benita Mon Jul 13, 2009 6:05am PDT

    Eh. I wouldn't say that singles are jealous of the "we" thing. Some people are single because they couldn't imagine being glued to someone in that way. That's a little freaky to me.

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  • Jane's Avatar
    Posted by Jane Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:45am PDT

    i agree, single people do get bitter n jealouse because of the "we" thing. But thats exactly why they are single, In any relationship you give up the "I'S" for we a relationship is 50-50 there cant be any other way.

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  • pwsgirl's Avatar
    Posted by pwsgirl Mon Jul 13, 2009 12:28pm PDT

    First of all, I agree that this post was a bit confusing. You start off talking about friend asking about your haircolor, and end with the "we" thing. Huh??? As for "we", sometimes it's appropriate to the conversation, sometimes not. Depends on the conversation and how the questions are being posed at the time. And the "We're pregnant" doesn't really bother me because it tells me the couple is willing to share the importance of this awesome life experience. However, it might sound better to say "We're expecting a baby." After all, only one of you is actually pregnant. Just my take.

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  • Brianna's Avatar
    Posted by Brianna Mon Jul 13, 2009 12:41pm PDT

    im opposite, i talk about everything in me terms, my house, my backyard, my whatever... in reality its ours and should be... but i forgot and think it should be implied cuz it was in my head :P

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:10pm PDT

    I don't refer to he and I as "we" unless the topic is "what are you two doing together this week."

    I also don't refer to him as "my man."

    He is an individual that belongs only to himself and I'm an individual that doesn't feel the need to be possessive in my verbage.

    Plus, I think it just sounds low class.

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