Take for instance your friend, or co worker that met a person
literally New Years Eve, continued to talk to this person and
started using the three letter phrase in place of their daily
vernacular by early summer. You are happy for them, but in the back
of your mind do you ever ask the question...Does this person know
what love is? In contrast, take for instance the couple that has
been together for five years, live together with no kids, but the
guy is afraid to say I Love You. Which brings me to my question...
How soon is too soon/How long is to long to say ...I LOVE YoU?
Keep in mind that there are three types of love: the adolescent
love that consumes your thoughts and actions, the sexual passionate
love that is primarily focused around sex, and the after all the
glitz and glamour have departed what stands after that love. My
guess is if you are at the adolescent stage of love, it might be
too soon to tell another person you love them, but if you have been
with a person for five years for the most part all of the glitz and
glamour has been seen already, and you are past the previous two
stages of love, so what would prohibit this person from saying I
love You. I know what you are asking yourself...What if the other
person initiates the phrase before you, what do you say, how do you
respond? The only thing you can do is to remain cool, calm and
collected and express your feelings to the best of your
abilities.
Food for Thought...You can pressure a person into saying I Love You
and risk the chance of that person saying it and not really meaning
it, scaring the other person off because they are not quite ready
for love and all the strings associated with it, or waiting for the
other person to say I Love You (which may take longer than
anticipated). I normally use the one year rule. If you have been
with a person for a year, or longer and they have seen your daily
actions, episodes, routines and occurrences, and in knowing that
they accept you for you, then, the three letter words might
possibly be OK to say, (or whisper) but not before then.
How soon is too soon/How long is to long to say ...I LOVE YoU?
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Posted by Sat Jun 6, 2009 9:44pm PDT
Report AbuseI like the way u think. U look @ things from different angles. That's cool.
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Posted by Sat Jun 6, 2009 10:11pm PDT
Report Abuseyou should write a book because you deserve an award for that analysis
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Posted by Sun Jun 7, 2009 7:17am PDT
Report AbuseI don't necessarily believe there is a time that is too soon because if it's what you feel, it's what you feel. But as far as it being true love, well, only time can determine that. I do know what it is like to have someone not be in love with you when you feel you are. It's devastating and chances are, they probably are never going to utter those words you want to hear. If a guy told me he was in love with me and I was not (and never going to be) I would make sure he understood my stance as gently as possible. If I was aware of how he felt, I would never put someone through the kind of pain of unrequited love.
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Posted by Sun Jun 7, 2009 6:17pm PDT
Report AbuseI THINK YOU RIGHT THAT THREE WORD PHARSE MEANS ALOT AND KNOW IN DAYS ALOT OF PEOPLE FORGET THE MEANING TO IT I COULDN'T EXPLAIN THIS ANY BETTER THEN YOU DID
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Posted by Sun Jun 7, 2009 6:46pm PDT
Report AbuseI don't believe there is any real time limit that can be placed on when the time is or isn't right to say I love you. I think it is a personal thing and is totally reliant upon your comfort level with the other person, how you perceive their feelings for you, and what you truly feel in your heart. My husband and I had dated only about three months before I told him that I loved him, and he returned the sentiment four days later--with the admission that he felt it before that but didn't want to say it too soon. If someone says it before you have the same feelings, then I say simply be honest. A good approach might be a simple, "Thank you for saying that/telling me that. I also care a great deal about you." Don't ever feel pressured to say something you aren't sure that you truly mean. However, if you are together for a long time and have been in a committed relationship for more than a year without hearing the words, then I would say it's time to evaluate the real reasons you are together because it may not be for love.
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Posted by Sun Jun 7, 2009 7:16pm PDT
Report AbuseI too believe there that is not a time frame cannot be put on love. If I was intimate with someone for a year, and they were still not capable of loving me, or telling me, then I would definately be reevaluating my relationship with that person. I assume there are cases of true love coming later, but in my experiences, love comes sooner than that. I also feel that each person is different, and feels love at different times, along with loving at different levels. I dont believe in saying it too quickly... but feel that once each person gets to know and trust each other that they should freely be able to express their true feelings.
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Posted by Tue Jun 9, 2009 12:23am PDT
Report Abusei honestly said i love you to my at the time boyfriend within the third day of knowing him and now we've been married for two years crazy right? but if you feel it you should show it cuz you never know it might be the best decision you've made. basically wat i'm saying is live life to the fullest don't be scared to say how you feel or do wat you think is right
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Posted by Thu Jun 11, 2009 8:19am PDT
Report Abusei don't think that there is a time frame on saying i love you alot of times we fall and we fall hard but listen to your heart it is there when you find peace and understanding
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Posted by Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:39am PDT
Report Abuseall i can say is that..at this modern age those three words have been taken for granted..i mean almost all guys i met said those words which i hardly believe...i hope there's still out there that would really prove to me..what love really is...
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