Today June 17th 2008 would be our nine year anniversary. We knew of eachother in highschool, he was kind of shy, but stuck out. We had one semmester of U.S. history together freshman year until he transferred to a different class because the teacher kept putting him to sleep, he was quite monotone!
My friend Michelle and he were in a drivers' ed class together 2nd semmester freshman year, somehow it worked out that they had to go to summer school for part of it and I had to go to summer school for the entire thing. It ended up that I went to a different highschool for mine than they went to for theirs. Well before we started summer school we had to get through finals which were half days! So my friend and I would go walk down by the lake and Downtown. There were some wild times those days!
Especially when one night we found out that the bus didn't run for as long as we thought it did and we had no way to get home. Thank goodness for some nice guys we had never met before giving us a ride, but now as I think back, how stupid were we to get into their car!! Three guys and just the two of us! Michelle insisted that they drop me off first, we both have the motherly quality that we didn't want anything to happen to the other and would put ourselves in the line of fire to protect the other. She ended up having to put her foot down because one of the guys really didn't want to take her home right after he dropped me off, but all ended ok!
We started summer school shortly after that and we would sometimes meet Downtown afterwards. On one particular day I was on my way home literally walking up to my parents' house and I get paged, by a number I don't recognize. I call the number, some guy answered and I say that someone paged me he says, "Oh hold on." he gives the cell phone to my friend Michelle and she asks me to come down to the cafe that we had discovered a few days earlier. So I asked my dad to give me a ride. I told him I was meeting her at the library, but he dropped me off and I walked to the cafe.
I walk in the door and into the back, which is where we had been sitting previous times we were there. Who else should be sitting there, but *J* I recognized him from history class, but we had never spoken. Michelle introduced us and apprarently *J* told her that he had a crush on me. So we played cards and talked alot eventually something happened, and *J* was sitting right next to me and asked if I wanted a back massage. (Well of course I did) So I said sure.
His hands were so gentle and soft. Previous to this I was kind of kissing a few different guys, not that I wanted anything from them or they wanted anythign from me it was jus summer fun. *J* was not to be one of those guys, he was somewhat sensitive, I really didn't want to hurt him. I also felt that he was a much better guy than all of the others put together. I had never really dated anyone like him befo went re. My mom told me I went for the under dog with this one. So we talked he told me about his family and I told him about mine and my dog. We seemed to just have a connection I never had experienced with anyone else.
His touch was like nothing I had ever felt before, he was such a big guy (6'3) I had expected his touch to be rough and demanding, but it wasn't. I could tell he wanted me. I savored his smell, as strange as that might sound, but fermones and all...His smell was so sexy to me and even now if I smell that again, his smell mixed with his cologne it turns me on. And before he had to leave he kissed me! :) It was a nice kiss, nothing forced and no tongue, very respectful!
We kept seeing eachother for a few more days until one day I walked into the cafe`, June 17th, 1999, Michelle and *J* were sitting at the table in the back and he must have said something to her about wanting to ask me out, but not knowing how to, because Michelle anounces that we are going out now. She knew I wanted to go out with him, so she knew there would be no need for a disscussion.
So over the next month we tried to spend as much time together as we could. His Dad lives out of town like 3hrs. away and had to go stay with him for a month. His mom and stepdad were camping at a nearby campground before he had to go so I would go to the campground to see him. Well one day we were skipping rocks on the lake, he kept saying well what would you do if I skipped this one three times. It all started with a kiss, and then progressivley got a little more sexy. The last one he had to skip the rock like 5 times and I would suck his dick. So naturally he did and then immediately insisted we go back to the campsite and to his tent. We talked and snuggled and I unbuttoned his shorts and pulled out his penis, his stepdad started calling me and said it was time to drive me home. #$@% So I twirled my tongue around it and kissed the tip, and ran my tongue down the shaft. I looked at him and said "To be continued..." God I felt bad, but I couldn't be late and I couldn't keep his stepdad my ride waiting, thats just rude.
About a week after that He was still at the campground, but there were only a couple of days before he had to leave to go to his Dads and we took a bike ride down to the beach. We ended up having sex on the beach, and later found out that it was not a very great location because from the street above, which you couldn't see from the beach, you could see everything, so who knows who was watching us have sex!
Now nine years later I wish I could say we are still together, but he says he is not happy anylonger. Still not sure what to do with that. I wish we could work things out and be a happy family especially after thinking back to the beginging of the relationship!
I just wanted to write about this because this is still a very special day to me and always will be, Summertime in general will always bring back memories of that first summer we had together and how fun it was!!!
How the father of my children and I met 9yrs ago.
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Posted by Tue Jun 17, 2008 5:13pm PDT
Report Abuselpf l I don't see the point of you coming in and saying SHI! like that and I am curious as to why you feel the need to make others feel bad! Sorry for your luck hope you somehow become a better person!!
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Posted by Tue Jun 17, 2008 5:19pm PDT
Report AbuseI want to first say it's sad to hear what happen to you, my heart goes to you because it's difficult to have someone we care about just walk away from our life. I will like to say that maybe if you had done it the right way this would not have happened. You do it the right way by letting God decision and principle be the center piece of your decision. Consider this little piece of advice seriously and you will not have to bother yourself with the pain associated with break-ups. If it work for me, I know it will work for you.
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Posted by Tue Jun 17, 2008 5:26pm PDT
Report AbuseI believe that God did help us find eachother. I think that no matter what happens it was meant to be that way and that there is no way for us to know what is in store for us! I have two beautiful children together and I don't know who you think chose those two children to be born, but I think it was God. He selected them for us, and no matter what you may think of my choices of premarital sex and all, it is my life and I live it the way I feel comfortable and as much as I believe that God has a plan for everyone I cannot beleive that he did not plan for my two children. Because if I hadn't had sex with *J* then they wouldn't be here! I can't believe that sorry, but we have a difference of opinion.
Thank you for your sympathy! It just sounds to me that you think that your way is the only way, and I can't stand thinking like that!
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Posted by Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:35pm PDT
Report AbuseThat is a cute but sad story :( My husband and I have been together for 11 years and this year will be our 9 year anniversary so this hits kinda home. I am sorry that you found someone to take you for granted. I feel bad for you and your family. I hope things get better.
K
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Posted by Wed Jun 18, 2008 9:43am PDT
Report AbuseAngel...
That was soooo touching. I loved reading about how you two met. I'm sorry that you're going through such a difficult period, but eventually everything will work out. He really does sound like a good person, and at some point, he may realize that his love for you and the family you share is stronger than anything that may have been a problem.
I wish you the very best.
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Posted by Wed Jun 18, 2008 11:18am PDT
Report AbuseThank you Terry, You know by now that your opinion means something to me...so thanks again!!
Miss Mouse thank you for your encouragement Its amazing how sincere people can be!
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Posted by Wed Jun 18, 2008 10:14pm PDT
Report AbuseI hate to say it, but the topic here was not our faith and I'm sorry that people have chosen to make that the topic. Anyway, your husband is a VERY lucky man to have you thinking the way you do of him still to this day. I don't know why he says he is unhappy, but I believe that your love for him and your family is very real. Maybe he is just a little lost in life now for some reason, but I think there's no doubt he loves you and the family you guys have together as well. I say talk to him and try anything you can to improve his happiness without sacrificing your own and the children's. Some time alone together may be the best thing. Maybe a visit to that beach or that cafe if it is still there. Thanks for sharing and best wishes to you guys. ~Kim
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Posted by Thu Jun 19, 2008 12:07pm PDT
Report Abusekim, thank you so much, I was in somewhat of a foul mood when Joe_osas wrote that. Thank you so much for all of the very nice things you said. I think that he feels very unbalanced! He works alot like 12+ hrs a day he has off every sunday and two saturdays a month. I think he feels like he gives everything to his job and there isn't enough energy left for anything else including himself. He said he still loves me, and unfortunately for the past few days he has been quite sick, I almost feel as though its because the kids and I aren't there, but thats just wishful thinking.
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