How to find chemistry online

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  Posted by user Mon May 12, 2008 8:01am PDT

  I met my husband online! He is the BEST!

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  Posted by Mon May 12, 2008 8:50am PDT

  I met all kinds of loves on-line...and some would be loves that never happenned, even some dangerous ones.

  One advertized himself as "The Bondage Master." He came onto me on line and proposed a scenario in which he would "kidnap" me, take me to an abandoned warehouse where he would tie me up and make me do all kinds of kinky things. Sweet.

  But then he said, "O, and can you drive? I'm broke."

  I most heartily laughed in his face...and that encounter never happenned.

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  Posted by steve Mon May 12, 2008 9:27am PDT

  the Woome site seems like less of a dating site and more of a casual bar. guess meeting in bars has been around for awhile so moving that lighter stigma atmosphere online makes sense.

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  Posted by MyaDee Mon May 12, 2008 10:42am PDT

  I met my wonderful husband online 4 years ago (at eHarmony). If you go in with a level head, are honest with the questions asked, and are a realist, you will meet someone. You just have to look out for the creeps.

  I met a few losers, of course, but it is just like dating in the 'real world'.

  I never would have met my husband otherwise. We lived only 15 miles apart, but our lives didn't intersect at all. If it hadn't been for online dating, I'd still be looking, and I wouldn't have my wonderful hubby OR my beautiful baby girl.

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  Posted by Jon M Mon May 12, 2008 12:45pm PDT

  Do you really want to know what to look for?

  http://www.riversongs.com/flow/dating_advice.html

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  Posted by labruinbear Mon May 12, 2008 1:25pm PDT

  been on dating sites like jdate in the past, but never had a succesful "match" once meeting offline, probably since text based profiles really are a difficult way to determine attraction, which is fundamental part of connecting with someone.

  i think its about going back to the way relationships have always been spawned, actually talking to and seeing someone first and then determining if there's an instant attraction based on first impression or not. looks like WooMe may actually be on to something

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  Posted by smmtz86 Mon May 12, 2008 1:33pm PDT

  I come to find out.... That trying to meet a good person online is just like meeting anyone anywhere else.... You hope there what they are claming to be. Example, Outgoing, down to earth, sweet, caring... blah blah blah.... So you meet, go out maybe on a few dates. Its great "wow this person is liget" Then it breaks... You start seeing someone differnt, he or she isnt the same person you met... So I'm thinking "Why the front America"? Just be yourself, bad or good... It saves time... Dating is hard work, and with life being so busy, people dont have time for games, mind reading... Just be who you are. It might not be that complex.

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  Posted by california blue Mon May 12, 2008 2:32pm PDT

  i don't get online dating. what grabs my attention is adecent looking guy. call me superficial.but when i was younger the thrill of it all was when you were physically attracted to someone, put yourself out there and they were also atracted to you too. doesn't it feel so good when that happens?

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  Posted by Jo Mon May 12, 2008 3:35pm PDT

  I met my new fella on line ......... changed my life ..... and I'm very happy . I wasnt looking for a anew man , just chatting , so be aware the net is like a huge meeting place , you may be very surprised ....

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  Posted by Wiary Mon May 12, 2008 8:07pm PDT

  Online dating? I have been there and done that. I have had the good, the bad, and the butt ugly! I have also been fortunate enough to meet men who have turned out to be good friends, and the love of my life, Justin.

  Recently divorced a few years ago, I tunred to Match.com to get back into the game. I had emotionally separated from the man I was "married" to long before I served him papers, so I was ready, willing, and able to check out what I had been missing.

  My ad was specific! No this, no that. Must be XYZ, but not too much ABC, etc. I received some interesting and tempting replies, but my true fun and joy with online dating came when I posted a photo of myself. I began to get hate mail! I have to say that the hate mail increased my self esteem! I was an attractive woman who knew EXACTLY what she wanted and was not afraid to let the rest of the Match.com community know it.

  That picture shocked them all. And the men hated me for being cute and not in the mood for messing around with someone whose world view wasn't close to mine.

  However, I am the one who ended up shocked. I received a communication from a 26 year old, non college graduate. These two things were high on my list of "must haves"....a college degree and at least 2 years older than he was. I had just begun a new job and was a little bored and had time on my hands, and IM capabilities.

  He and I began chatting and I agreed to a date. To make a long story short, my younger man (by 7 years) and I have been together for 4 years now. We bought a house last year, and a puppy! We are, sort of, in the midst of planning a family. I am crazy about him and he is smitten with me.

  Sometimes we can't believe how it is we found each other. He took a chance on someone who came across as a royal biaaatch and I let my guard down enough to check out someone who didn't fit my "perfection profile". Love. Sometimes it comes at you sideways, but it is worth it!

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