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Sunday, October 12, 2008
I broke up with my boyfriend, and I worry about running into him. Any advice?
I broke up with my boyfriend, and I worry about running into him. Any advice?
Everyone dreads this kind of encounter. I remember avoiding an old
flame's favorite spots for months after splitting up. To stay cool in
case of a chance meeting, defuse the tension by acknowledging the
awkwardness. ("Wow, this is weird!") Keep the conversation brief;
there's no need to get into a soul-searching discussion on a street
corner. Finally, don't beat yourself up for feeling sad, angry or
confused afterward; these emotions are normal. Comfort yourself by
calling a friend to vent. Then pat yourself on the back for surviving.
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Posted by happily married Wed May 14, 2008 6:02pm PDT
just say hello how are you and leave it at that. Even though you may be miserable with grief or HOT with anger. Blow him off and pretend you are so much better off without him! This will make him relize what he is missing out on.
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Posted by ♥¸.•*´¨`*•.¸♥•.¸♥¸ tyluv♥one♥ ¸.•*´¨`*•.¸♥•.¸ Thu May 15, 2008 3:12pm PDT
If you should run in your ex by accident,one good you can do.
Leave him with one good impression that he will be thinking of for the rest of his life.
And that is to look positive,confident and a beautiful smile he'll never forget.
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Posted by H Darlene S Thu May 15, 2008 3:26pm PDT
Beautiful thought tyluv and you are so right. The same goes with men. If I were to bump into my ex, it would be the contentment on his face that stayed with me forever.
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Posted by normathomasky Thu May 15, 2008 5:45pm PDT
easy, say hi can,t stop i,m late meeting (Dave,Paul,or who ever)great to see you......bye.......
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Posted by planet_rob Thu May 15, 2008 7:13pm PDT
Or better yet, don't say anything. Nod and move on. Stop doing the whole "game" thing.
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Posted by D-Train Thu May 15, 2008 9:42pm PDT
No matter how weird you may feel talking to your ex again, no matter how blue or broken hearted you still are, smile as big as you can and come off super-confident so you leave them with the impression it's no big deal. Be the bigger person...even if that means you'll go straight to your car and cry the whole way home.
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Posted by hanna s Thu May 15, 2008 10:09pm PDT
Just work hard,looking for a new life and new goals
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Posted by roddickutza Fri May 16, 2008 4:52am PDT
i am going through the same thing... but a day after we broke up i made a stupid mistake...wrote a mail and told him 'how I feel'...and what's worse is that we work together...more than one month has past and i did not see him, but is bound to happen someday...of course i will say hi but i don't want to be to amiable i don't want to not give him the impression i still like him...even if it's true!
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Posted by VICKIW Fri May 16, 2008 8:03am PDT
BE PPLITE,ASK HIM HOW HE HAS BEEN,LEAVE HIM WITH A SMILE.
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