Love + Sex

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  Posted by springtime Sat Jul 19, 2008 7:27am PDT

  Since he is entertaining himself, yes he does have a sex drive. And yes, there is cause for concern but it shouldn't be attributed to a 10 pound weight gain. Both of you are young. There is something else at play here. He is holding something back. At one time he was all over you like white on rice, so it's unlikely it's inadequacy on your part, unless he wants to try something new to add some variety, which may be a result of all that porn. Talk to him, but if you are not comfortable with what he suggests, then rethink this romance.

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  Posted by T ~N~T Sat Jul 19, 2008 7:30am PDT

  23 years old? Hmmmmmmm...........Unfortunately you got to go through a lot more men than just him to understand a MAN! Men are unpredictable and hard to read who knows what he has down his pants that is making him react to you differently. But if you truly love him then hang in there and be patient ask questions here and there, but for now just be very observant, watch his body language and things that he may say out of the ordinary remind him of things he may have said in the past and what he is saying now and always express your love to him. Be Empathetic. I share this with you cause one I really loved someone (my husband) and he changed at a blink of an eye and it was a real eye opener for me. We've since divorced and I've now been alone 3 years still trying to figure out what happened? Good Luck..........

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  Posted by snowpuff72 Sat Jul 19, 2008 7:39am PDT

  Yes you do. My ex-husband did the exact same thing and it was like an addiction. How can he not want it and then masturbate? Because he wants it but from a variety of sources.And it's not YOU it is HIM. You are too young to deal with this garbage and it really messed with my self esteem for a long time. This guy isn't going to change even if you lose this weight you're worried about because it has NOTHING to do with weight. Even if it did what would happen after children ? I'm positive you can find someone else and when you do you'll be alot happier. I know I am.

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  Posted by urassismine2 Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:35pm PDT

  Women are audio. Men are physical. It may not make sense to you, but the way that you felt to him when you had less wieght, is what his acceptance range is about. Ten, or twenty pounds is enough to create body change, and the way that you fell now, might be his problem. He may not feel the same pleasure sensation from you, as he did in the past, when you two enjoin each other. Your boy, might just be eating cookies before dinner, if you know what I mean. Something is stifling his appetite, thats for sure.

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  Posted by christi jacks Wed Jul 23, 2008 6:59pm PDT

  I've got some bad news.....I divorced a man over this kind of thing and guess what....ended up with a boyfriend that is the same way. It is a new trend among many men. Porn is free and easily accessible and I would bet that within the next five years you will hear all of your friends talking about having the same problem. I'm not against porn......I'm against using it on a daily or semi-regular basis until the point that you only come to your mate to connect emotionally and not sexually. If I were 23.....I'd move on. Good Luck!!!!!

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