Q: I made a huge mistake by cheating on my boyfriend. I swore to
him I'd never do it again and he has given me a second chance. How can
I regain his trust?
A:The first step toward repairing your relationship is understanding why
you strayed in the first place, so it doesn't happen again. Did you
feel unhappy, dissatisfied or neglected? By identifying the reasons for
your infidelity and addressing them with your boyfriend, you'll stand a
better chance of moving forward together. You also have to accept that
your partner is most likely feeling angry and hurt, which is natural.
You don't have to let him walk all over you, but listen to his gripes,
accept responsibility for what you've done and ask what you can do to
make him feel more secure, such as checking in with him when you're out
for the evening. Also, doing little things that mean a lot to him, like
buying tickets to see his favorite band, for instance, will help
restore his faith. Regaining his trust won't be easy or quick, but it is possible and your bond may end up stronger for it.
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Posted by Sun Nov 16, 2008 11:47pm PST
Report AbuseI let anoyher man eat my p---- i thought my man was cheating sex got short and he would always say he is tired but he stayed wit me a long time before he broke it off but he says he wonts to see other people but he still loves me but i still love him and wont to be with him and he said if its ment to be we will be but we still f--- and see each other and have feelings will i or how do i get him back
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Posted by Wed Jan 21, 2009 9:13pm PST
Report AbuseI just recently cheated on my boyfriend of three years. I'm kind of in the same boat as the girl who asked the question. This is the first time i've ever cheated on anyone and this really isn't the kind of person that I am. When it happened it didn't even feel like me and afterwards i tried to tell myself that it was a dream and it didn't happen. I love him so much and I would do anything to get him back.
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Posted by Sun Feb 1, 2009 10:14pm PST
Report AbuseI cheated on my boyfriend. I know why I did it. He went away to basic training. Plenty of guys thought I would be this nice easy target because he was gone and I am so vulnerable. I have a very hard time standing up to people and saying no. I never put myself first, never. That is the reason why it happened. From this day forth I will stand up for myself, and fight my own fights. I will learn to be strong and let all these guys know that I am happily taken and they do not stand a chance. I just hope that my boyfriend forgives me. He is my motivation to become this better person. I just wish that I didn't have to hurt him to figure all of this out. It pains me so much to know that I have hurt him.
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Posted by Mon May 25, 2009 10:59am PDT
Report AbuseAlot of these post where pp are saying once a cheater always a cheater is completely false... If thats the case 90% of relationships are doomed to fail... in some relationship somewhere at some point in MOST peoples lives they have cheated in one form or another. And several of you sound like you have been cheated on with all this I dont trust any man or any women. Thats unhealthy opinionate, circumstantial advice. Step outside of yourself for one moment and into the shoes of your partner then and only then will you understand each persons perspective... Good Luck to everyone and remember anything worth having is worth working for and relationships are no exception.
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