Ok, quick background. I just turned 30 and have no real relationship...sure I have an occasional fling here and there, and the F-buddy you can always call. But I don't have a boyfriend. At my age, most of my friends both female and male are getting married. I've been to 4 weddings just this year. Although, I know there is someone out there for me, and I will find the right person. I often wonder if there is something wrong with me?? You see, I have never been one to dream about my wedding...every little girl is supposed to dream about their big day right? Not me, I spent my days growing up as a Tom boy, beating boys up instead of dreaming about marrying them. I recently went to an Ex's wedding, we are still very close, grew up together so it's OK. This wedding was spectacular; I mean Platinum Weddings was there. He married a local Houston radio personality so of course it was big. And while I walked away admiring the flowers, and the cakes, and the dress......I just don't think I want all that for me.....which leads me to my question, is there something wrong with me?? I don’t dream of a big wedding, I mean the most important thing is that I find someone I love and can spend the rest of my life with right?? Maybe I will change my mind if/when I ever do get engaged, but I really think, even though I make a lot of money as a lawyer, that it's not worth spending on a wedding. I want to elope in Vegas some day, with the future love of my life.....is that so bad??
I don't dream of my wedding....what's wrong with me?
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Posted by Sun Nov 8, 2009 10:03am PST
Report AbuseNo, there is nothing wrong with you. Actually, you are extremely refreshing. Marriage is not about the "big day" it is about all the other days that follow.
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Posted by Sun Nov 8, 2009 10:14am PST
Report AbuseExactly. Marriage should be about love, not a big show and feeling like you have to impress all your family and friends. I got married recently in the backyard with a handful of closest family and friends. I didn't wear a dress becasue I wanted to be comfortable and enjoy the day. Thank goodness my husband didn't want a big show for a wedding either.
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Posted by Sun Nov 8, 2009 10:34am PST
Report AbuseNothing wrong with you. We all have different personalities. What it's really important should be that the day you decide to get marry TO BE really in love with the person you are marrying. Spending that much $$$ doesn't mean it's going to make the marriage last.... The day you marry make sure you put all your effort to make that relationship last for ever. Like the enchanted stories, "And they lived happily ever after"
That's were it counts, not one day but, the days for the rest of your life.
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Posted by Sun Nov 8, 2009 12:16pm PST
Report AbuseThe marriage is about the marriage for all the years you stay married. Not just the big party on the first day.
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Posted by Sun Nov 8, 2009 12:24pm PST
Report AbuseIm in a stable relationship and i dont even want to think about a wedding. The "big day" aint even what life is about. It is enjoying what time u get to spend with a partner and enjoy the love that u will have with that right person when they come along. so not there is nothing wrong with you. good luck and worry about u the right person will come along one day.
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 9:49am PST
Report AbuseThere is nothing wrong with you. It is just a day after all. I told my mom that I want a nice wedding but we won't spend a fortune I would rather them give me a 30,000 for a down payment on a house not for kegs and a dance... lol
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Posted by Mon Nov 9, 2009 2:21pm PST
Report AbuseWe all have to define happiness in our own way. Why are you freaking out about this? Who cares?
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