I need advice: Do you have to be married to consider a threesome?

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  Posted by Helen M Tue May 6, 2008 8:57pm PDT

  No as long as there's trust in your relationship with you and your bf .

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  Posted by Shearon L Tue May 6, 2008 8:59pm PDT

  I would say that it would not matter if you were married. The reason is: How strong is your relationship and intimacy? How do YOU feel about having a third person encounter? To me that is more important than the married question. If you are comfortable with it and have a strong relationship then go for it.

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  Posted by Sheila Tue May 6, 2008 9:07pm PDT

  in my opinion... i guess if you are already married it matters... it's a big "no no" to married couples, maybe if you're not married you might consider it... but just in my opinion, married or not, i won't consider an idea such as a threesome... anyways those were just my silly ideas... i guess if it's ok with you there's nothing wrong with it, just make your decision based on what you think would be the best for you... be wise... think of what would be the consequences, think of the advantages it may bring to yourself("if" it has one) and all the disadvantages...

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  Posted by Alex's Blog Tue May 6, 2008 9:10pm PDT

  I think it would be best if only unmarried people engage in multiple partner activities. only because most single people have alto less to lose compared to married individuals.

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  Posted by Sheila Tue May 6, 2008 9:16pm PDT

  just wanna add up something, consider the kind of relationship you both have right now... whatever would be your decision, trust is needed... if you have a strong relationship and you trust each other i guess there would be nothing wrong... and it's a highlight... "CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS"... ask yourself this question "how do i feel about it?" be wise in answering that, think of all the angles... i guess that's all... take care...

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  Posted by HeatherH Tue May 6, 2008 9:23pm PDT

  Marriage has nothing to do with it.

  I feel absolutely comfortable with the possibility of a 3some in my relationship. I can say that because I know exactly where I stand with my boyfriend, how we feel about each other. We're very open and very honest with each other. Trust and honesty are the 2 most important things in a relationship, especially if you're thinking about having a 3rd involved. Remember that you should want it too, not just do it to make him happy.

  The only reason I hesitate to have a 3some is figuring out who the 3rd would be. I'm not sure of anyone I trust enough to add them to a sexual experience, and would not feel awkward with after the sex is done. lol

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  Posted by Lisa Tue May 6, 2008 9:48pm PDT

  You want trust and honesty???

  Call me old fashion. I think the idea of a threesome is primative and sick.

  LM

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  Posted by J Tue May 6, 2008 10:28pm PDT

  why do you need to be married to have athreesome? and have you asked him why he wants to do this? and then you need to asked why not a another guy instead of a woman. See how he reacts to that one.Bet ya he backs out first then lol.

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  Posted by Heather A Tue May 6, 2008 10:49pm PDT

  The word 'relationship' and threesome just don't go well together. It's better left to the single people who are dating around. You don't think it would cause problems in a relationship (married or any) but it eventually will. I like what the other poster said about asking him to invite another guy in. Would he be so enthusiastic about it then? if it's something YOU are comfortable with trying and not because you think it will make him happy and bring you closer then I say great...but just weigh all the possibilities. Jealousy, resentment, the fear he may prefer her to you, whether it's true or not.Will it come up in a fight? Sure you trust him but will that fade after you do the deed? Just take your emotions into account and value your relationship and it's monogamy. I wouldn't take the risk of 'maybe messing it up maybe not' over something like sex that is only 'part' of a relationship. If he loves you...he'll understand and leave it at that. Hopefully he realizes all he needs is you and vice versa.

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  Posted by christina Tue May 6, 2008 11:33pm PDT

  well...you didnt say how serious you two are but, I think that is the kind of adventure you should try before getting involved in a serious relationship...sometimes it is hard to separate emotions when dealing w/sex. if it were me...i couldnt help but feel a bit of jealousy seeing the man i love enjoying sex from another woman even if i was right there playing along...but maybe thats just me...just let him watch ;) if you decide to do it maybe you could set some sort of a guideline for him...no penetration or whatever...at least until you see how you feel afterwards. good luck chuck!!

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