My best friend has been married three short years and since she said "I do" her husband totally lost interest in her sexually. She calls me every week to tell me she's not getting any and this is NOT what she expected marriage to be like. Before they got hitched, they had a fairly normal sex life. Then he gained some weight, got self concious about it, and won't go near her with a ten foot pole.
She's tried dressing up for him, stripping down, playing games, you name it. She's a former beauty queen so it's not that she's hideous or anything. She told me he watches porn on line and even Tivo's it on TV. Playboy subscriptions fill up the mailbox. He's looking at naked women all the time, but for some reason won't do his own wife.
My best friend finally called him out on it the other day. She reminded him it's been 5 months since they made love and he has no problem watching strangers do it in pornos, so why not her? He told her it's because he doesn't want to see the look on her face when he disappoints her. He's mostly just upset about his weight gain. Then again, he's not doing anything to lose weight or get in shape either.
He also said with porn, he can watch it without being judged. Without her staring back at him, without a reaction. Seems to me he is more comfortable just retreating into his own little world when it comes to sex.
My poor best friend. She is so frustrated. The longest she and her husband ever went without sex was 8 months. I think that's ridiculous, but what can she do when he seems to have no interest in her whatsoever? She calls me to complain about it all the time and I don't know what else to tell her. I just don't get it. I thought men love sex. I thought they literally can't live without it.
