I want sex more than he does

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  Posted by bonniec Mon Mar 31, 2008 4:06pm PDT

  im 63my husband is 42 i love it we are perfect im a hot old moma and he's a hot baby it is wonderful.

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  Posted by face Mon Mar 31, 2008 4:49pm PDT

  hi i dont get it enuff either i want it 3 times a day lucky if i get it twice a week. all these men need to man up!and start pleasing there

  women cause its pretty pathetic if ya gotta do it ur self.

  so get off the couches put down the video controllers and start giving us women what we need

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  Posted by face Mon Mar 31, 2008 5:57pm PDT

  OMG!!.......from the looks of the people thats commented here, most are women! Im a guy, and I was lucky to get it once a month when I was married. Whats wrong with you guys? Id give almost anything to have a wife that wanted it like most of these women on here say they do.

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  Posted by Cbd Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:09pm PDT

  No need to apportion blame to either side.

  Men are stimulated visually and mentally by variety and since marriage basically excludes a variety of partners then the exact same sex with the exact same partner can sometimes just become less appealing over time. For men this is unfortunately at least in part genetic and just to be accurate it has almost nothing to do with looks, it happens to smoking hot couples too. Obviously the frequency of boring sex is immaterial.

  This might be strange for a woman to understand since even boring sex leads to male ejaculation, I refer you to the fact that almost any kind of friction whatsoever will eventually do that.

  Even if you have a very honest relationship with your partner trying to tell a person that you love and respect who is the mother of your children that your finding sex ( the most intimate thing they can give you) a little boring is not for the weak hearted. It beats “do I look fat in this dress” by a few million miles.

  Men are altogether terrible at it anyway, I mean what do you say ? Hey I wish you were a little sluttier sometimes, not all the time and not so you frighten my erection away, just occasionally and in the correct amount and not just after I asked you to but spontaneously when you think of it even if you have not for the past 10 years etc etc. Impossible.

  I don't know the answer for each and every person just I will tell you this, just in the same way that exercise stimulates the metabolism all day one good sex surprise will stick around in a guys head for weeks and months. You don't need to constantly come up with new and novel things sinking deeper and deeper into some kind of sadistic porn movie. Just do a little new thing every now as a surprise it works wonders.

  Think of it like this. Men are so visual stimulated that almost anything new visually like a position, some clothing, location or new mentally like dirty talking, being slightly dominant, or slightly submissive is all highly stimulating. Each change from the norm is in some way like a new woman for him and not in a bad way, he is just discovering different sides of you. He can get all the variety he ever needed from you and your imagination.

  My goodness if you can think up new and interesting ways to keep 2 and 3 year olds happy all day for years and years on end this should be a piece of cake.

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  Posted by Gerry & Theresa Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:11pm PDT

  This question hits really close to home lol, I went through this exact same thing and I started nagging and complaining which only made it worse. With 7 kids and his work which takes him away from home weeks at a time I started to feel as if he was cheating but after I finally stopped hounding him and started listening it got way better! I realized it wasn't just him it was "us" and started from there. I was stressed with the kids and my home business and he was stressed with his work etc. Talk about ironic I sell adult toys which you think would make that type of problem non existent lol. But with 13 years and still going strong I'd suggest talking, and listening and of course yes handling some of it yourself :) No problem with self satisfaction and mabey even try seduction to spice it up. No matter how long the relationship people do get bored, it would be like eating the same meal every day... who wants that? Plus keep in mind sex isn't the only part of a relationship nor the most important.

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  Posted by Forever Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:23pm PDT

  I've been in this same situation for about 4 yrs. now. I can't seem to get to the bottom of it. I don't believe he is cheating. I KNOW it's not physical. It's always excuses. I do know that before I met him he was always looking at porn online. I've read someplace that men sometimes get so addicted to pornography that they cannot have a normal sex life unless therapy is involved. I know in my situation he will not see a therapist of any kind. I do love him and don't believe, at this point anyway, that I would consider leaving him or cheating on him. Because my love is so strong I will try and find a way to deal with this in my own way. If you really are in love don't do anything that will jeopardize you're relationship unless you think there is no other alternative.

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  Posted by sweetie Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:31pm PDT

  I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and knew him for over 4 yrs before we began dating. I feel bad that I would love it all the time and I don't think my need it going to slow down any time soon. He seems okay with even once a week at times. This has just been frustrating me.

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  Posted by google Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:42pm PDT

  I am in almost the same situation as you, 4 year relationship & marriage. MY HUSBAND COULD CARE LESS ABOUT SEX. He does jack off in the morning, so I don't think he's cheating.

  Now he does have stressful job, but so do I! I'm still horny though.! I know he also looks at online porn, so I started doing it to, sort of to get back at him and make myself feel better. I did buy the mac daddy of all vibrators and that's cool, but I think the lack of emotional connection is what is the most hurtful.

  Everything else is great in the marriage. Some of my married friend talk about all the sex they have with their husbands and it makes me feel bad. Are there any guys out there who can explain this odd male behavior? I thought men were supposed to think about sex every 3 minutes.

  By the way, just to give you an idea of my physical looks, I would rate myself a 9 out of 10. Not overweight and I am young.

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  Posted by reason Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:34pm PDT

  Have you considered a possibility that you may be getting ugly and big (aka fat)?

  Ugliness is no1 cause of mens erectile dysfunction and reduced sex drive.

  Also, just wanted to point out, why are are you so obsessed with sex?? Your man works spends energy bringing you the money and all you think is pleasuring yourself. Do not be selfish. Give him a break.

  is it not interesting how women talk about guys continuously thinking of sex, but in reality I see female readers are so thinking here is sex sex sex.

  Anyway, here is the recipe for you.

  1) cook him a good dinner (meat is a must!!)

  2) do not push him into sex. Control your elevated libido.

  3) start exercising and none of that diet BS

  4) wait for a month

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  Posted by Mon Mar 31, 2008 11:40pm PDT

  Wow, it's kind of a relief to read about other females that are in the same situation as I am. I love my boyfriend and have tried very hard to understand things from his side and working to change things. But it's very frustrating when my needs are not met. At this point anytime my b/f wants to have ANY kind of physical is fine w/ me. I'm very sad and at times it makes me wonder whether he have someone else or no longer finds me attractive anymore. I love him and everything else in our relationship is great, But this is definitely putting a strain on me.

  PS and guys: I'm no dog either. Everytime we go out I get compliment and hit on, so my looks (keeping myself fit, etc) is not the issue.

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