I want sex more than he does

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  Posted by sam Wed Jul 1, 2009 2:58pm PDT

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  Posted by kelli Mon Jul 6, 2009 12:52pm PDT

  that's a tuffy

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  Posted by te-te Wed Aug 5, 2009 8:29am PDT

  in my expirience im 23 and my boyfriend of 5 mths is 34 i want sex like at least twice a day him not so much more like once a week. or when we do have sex im always the initiator and he most of the time finishes before me (if u know what i mean) then im upset and have an attitude with him then go and finish the job by myself. Which results to him feeling less of a man sort of speak. He is stressed about work and money and he is also alot older than me. A man reaches his sexual peak in his teen years like 16-21 a woman reaches hers aroung 25-35 give or take a few years so i feel age does play a part in this matter. I just want a compormise so he does not feel insecure of like he has to preform a job duty when having sex with me i want us both to be satisfied and enjoy making love to each other. HELP!....

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  Posted by shikira Mon Oct 26, 2009 1:57am PDT

  Sometimes there can be a lack of emotional connection in a relationship and especially if your partner is closed off from you because of his worries or insecurities and the only way he can feel more connection with you is if you bond with him as if you were his best friend and not just a lover.

  I have only just begun going out with my partner who I desire so much but he won't make any moves on me at all sexually or physically and have been left in tears by what feels like rejection. He tells me that he feels insecure about himself (which is strange given his need for attention from others) and doesn't appear to be a non-confident person. But he only opens up with me when I show myself to dismiss him - like I am hard to get or if I talk about football or his own interests and have a male friend around.

  He tells me that I should be more confident and make it harder for him to want me but this is near impossible when he lives in the flat upstairs from me and sees me everyday. I make sure that I go out everyday even though I don't work full time and when I do see him; only give him bits of my attention (not all of it) and act as if busy with other things. This seems to keep him attracted to me but for me; this is going on for too long and am now ready for a sexual relationship after a few months when he just wants to take a very long time so I can't allow myself to think about him the way I want to and sometimes he turns me off with this waiting game.

  I understand that some men do like to lust after a woman (if she makes it a challenge for him) and this is exciting; but not when you end up begging for his affections. I have already made an idiot of myself with him and come on to him twice and he rejected me both times saying he wasn't ready but tells me how much he really wants me etc which is confusing. I have given him the opportunity to finnish the relationship but he doesn't want to end it even though I am not sure where it is really going. The conclusion I come to; is just treat him like a best friend and build more emotional connection so that he becomes more confident with you and will open up more but don't give him all of your time and attention (keep active and appear as if you have a life of your own even if you don't) the balance has to be right and he has to feel that you are there for him on an emotional level but difficult to obtain at the same time and this is what seems to be what draws a man in (not always giving to him or being needy).

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  Posted by Nich Thu Nov 5, 2009 4:12am PST

  email me at nh022195@yahoo.com and lets talk

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  Posted by Katelyn Mon Nov 9, 2009 2:02pm PST

  I have a problem. I'm in a new relationship with a guy who does not (or seems to not) to want to have sex. His previous relationship was long ago, his only one. I don't understand. I want sex to be part of the relationship, but not if it keeps him from emotionally loving me. The relationship is very new, so of course I can't share my feelings. Help!!!

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  Posted by Jim Sun Nov 15, 2009 6:38am PST

  Everyone seems to be unequally matched in the desire catagory.

  I'd recommend a comprimise. Agree to work with each other.

  I like the idea that you offer oral when you want sex and I'd feel lucky to get that offer. Maybe he will too?

  You may not be comfortable with that and you could sure offer something enticing that you are comfortable with instead.

  Men are visual and if you'll get made up, show off the sexy parts of your body with nice lingeree and spend a little time in this getup getting him up, you might win way more often. Clevage and nipples just rock. (I'm getting excited just thinking about it :) )

  Most men, myself included, are extra turned on when we believe you really are hot for us. It's stimulating.

  Try this, maybe?

  If possible, know when he's comming home and that he's not in a foul mood. Get your gear on and let him find you in the kitchen, making something easy to make that he really likes. When you serve his dinner, try to show off those curvy things that get us wound up and see what it does for him.

  Good luck

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  Posted by Jessica Sat Nov 21, 2009 4:55pm PST

  i understand my husband and i are going threw it sucks i know

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