I'm sure it's a very common situation: Boy and Girl meet, date, fall in love, Boy proposes, Girl accepts, and the two begin planning the wedding so that they can go on to live in marital bliss. But what happens when Boy is gung-ho about everything, and Girl is starting to second guess her decision to accept Boy's proposal? This, folks, is the problem I'm having. Things had been going fine for me and Boy for a while, and then I suddenly started feeling like I wanted OUT. He's changed so much since we first got together, and not all of it is good. Granted, I have also changed, not all of it good, but the things that have changed in him are really bad. Such as, he doesn't have a steady job, he makes bad financial desicions, etc. We've also come across some major things, and neither one of us really wants to compromise.
My question is this: How do I handle all of this? I'm a Christian, and I've been praying about this for quite a while. I asked God for a clear sign of whether or not Boy and I should be together, and if not, lead us to other people. But how can I KNOW in my heart what I should do? Any logical advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'm supposed to be getting married, but I'm having second thoughts...BIG TIME.
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Posted by Mon Jun 30, 2008 5:04am PDT
Report AbuseYou have answered your question yourself. I got married 8 months ago to someone and I wasn't sure if I really wanted to or not. Im miserable and having to wait to get a divorce. Save yourself the heartache and money and wait until you are 100% sure that marrying Boy is what you want. Good luck.
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Posted by Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:16am PDT
Report AbuseActually, this is not the time for bulk passing but proferring solutions to this problem which will ultimately bring succour to both parties should be the main issue now. Before one steps into a relationship there must be an ready-made answers to series of questions either from the Gal or the Boy. This include
- Is your peace, happiness & joy guaranteed in the relatioship?
- Is he/she worth dying for?
- Is he really working for the family upkeep before the reckless spending?
- Is he man enough to carry you along as the head?
- Is there love & understanding?
- As a lady, you ask urself "what do you want from a man"? & as a guy "what do I want from a woman?
Yours answers to this posers is a signal to a fulfiling or a broken relationship. Ours is to advice but the decision is left to you cos "who feels it knows it all". Keep your head high.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted by Sat Jul 12, 2008 9:21pm PDT
Report AbusePLEASE DONT MARRY HIM!MY DAUGHTEER WAS AFRAID TO TELL US THAT SHE WAS HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS AND NOW IS FACING A DIVORCE.IT HAS BEEN VERY PAINFUL FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED.YOUR SENSES ARE TRIING TO TELL YOU THINGS SO LISTEN TO THEM.GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK
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Posted by Thu Dec 11, 2008 1:13pm PST
Report AbuseWONDERFUL NEWS!!!! I am VERY happy to report that we ended the engagement. I know that might sound sad to start with, but it really is a good thing. We have both moved on, and very happily so. Thanks for all the great advice!
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