Insecurities. How Do You Handle Them?
I had a long discussion with one of my co-workers yesterday about something that seemed to be bothering her. This was after work over a few brews so she seemed to be at ease about relating some of these issues so I sat there and listened to her. A few things jumped out at me and it made me think about women’s insecurities. Some are very prevelant and others aren’t as much. But after she shared some things with me, it got me to thinking about myself and my ex-gf from years ago. We had a discussion very similar to the one I had yesterday and this is sort of how the conversation went.
Her: “OMG, I LOVE her thighs! *smacks my leg while staring straight at the television* She has some of the most beautiful legs I’ve ever seen! I want legs just like her…”
Me: “I think your legs are just fine. What’s not to like about them?”
*leans over and kisses me*
Her: “Thanks baby, but I want legs like a horse….wanna walk down the street and have cars just stopping from everywhere.
*laughing ensues*
Me: “Why does everyone else have to see your legs and think you’re hot? I think you’re one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever met, and I’m not just saying that. I like them just fine baby.”
Her: “Aw Charlieeeeee! You’re so sweet! But seriously…I do want legs like her.”
*funny look pops up on my face while she smirks*
Now the conversation from yesterday went something like this:
Her: “OMG it seems like all you guys are frickin insane!! I am so over my bf…frickin drives me nuts! If he doesn’t want me, then I’m going BACK on the market! I mean look at me! Who wouldn’t want all of this sexiness. I mean, come on CB, I’m oozing with it right?”
*I laugh heartily*
He: “Girl, you’re crazy! But honestly, you have very nice features and you’re sexy and fun. You have what I like to call a sexy cuteness about you.”
Her: “Oh yeah? Wanna be my boyfriend? Just kidding dude. So, if you were just some random guy, never saw me before, what would you like about me the most? Come on man, tell me. I gotta know.”
Me: “Well, for starters… *I look over her face in a joking manner* …you have a very nice face…nice cheekbones, sexy full lips, and I LOVE your nose.”
SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEECH!!!!!
Ok, you would have thought I called her a fat pig the way she reacted to this one.
Her: “My nose? My nose? My NOSE?!?! Ewwwww man! I HATE my nose! I swear if I could afford plastic surgery it’s the FIRST thing I’d change! Ewwwww! What about my nose do you like? *starts grabbing her nose as if it’s about to fall off* I mean look at this hump! See it? It’s hideous…I can’t stand my nose. You give me $30,000 and I’m changing SO much about this face of mine. My nose? Are you trying to be funny dude?”
Ladies, do you shoot down guys when they compliment you but it’s something about yourself you don’t like? Has it ever ruined your chance to hook up with an awesome guy? The funny thing about it, this girl is Venezuelan, very attractive and shapely. And I honestly do love noses. I think they are so cute and some girls have noses that make me literally fall in love with just…her nose…while I’m staring at the cuddle button…as I call them…heh heh. Like, who doesn’t like rubbing noses when you dig the girl? But yeah, let’s talk about this shall we? Insecurities anyone? I know I have mine.
