Let me preface this by saying that I'm not a cheap guy. I
don't mind buying drinks for women, whether I know them or
not. I don't even mind buying for my friends, whether
they reciprocate or not. I definitely have a giving nature
about me sometimes and don't penny pinch if I don't have to
for some reason. But I've been seeing for a long,
loooooong time how women go crazy over guys buying them drinks like
it's a medal of victory or something. For me it's
along the lines of an explorer coming across a new species of
animal/plant life or some ancient, long-forgotten relic.
I've been out and even read a few blogs where women are like
"well at least he bought me a drink, even though I wasn't
attracted to him" or "I wasn't listening to a
word he said but he DID buy me a drink" and the even better
"...so we headed to the bar and waited for guys to buy us
drinks..." I mean, really? Why does it mean so
much to you that you get a drink out of a guy? Even when you
have no interest in him or anything he would have to say?
Clue me in, please.
Is a drink really that important?
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Posted by Thu Aug 27, 2009 3:00pm PDT
Report AbuseThe dating era for myself from what I witness has been very strange! From Adulterous affairs among married men hooking up with the young new ones, to what men in general are first attracted to in a bar atmosphere in the first place. Why do you think every woman will be impressed by a bought drink? When I attended bar/dance clubs I only drank H2O and nothing more. My interest was dancing and just having a good time the clean way-which many of you fail to do. Try asking them to dance first and just strike up a natural conversation...that is what happens when so many of you are addicted to the internet connection styles...you lose your ability to directly communicate with souls in public places where you do end up looking like a dingle berry. I was one even as thin I was, not one man approached me nor asked me to dance or even for my phone number probably because of this one factor that one male was brave enough to tell me...the showing of my confidence in myself. ( I had to, I secretly knew that bars/clubs are nothing more than just meat markets to begin with that sometimes troubles occur from them, if a woman is not smart to watch herself around the 'wolves' who intently watch over them.
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Posted by Thu Aug 27, 2009 4:55pm PDT
Report AbuseThanks Mauna, but not really what I was talking about. I personally go to dance myself and have a great time without trying to pick up everything in heels with breasts. The atmosphere is not what I'm talking about and this goes back waaaaaay before what the dating scene is now. And maybe that was the problem, you were more focused on your confidence, like most people these days, that you came off in a way that no one wanted to approach you. Not my business and not what I'm talking about either. I'm talking about just the one aspect I mentioned.
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Posted by Thu Aug 27, 2009 6:38pm PDT
Report Abusethat is so true and i think that you are very brave and you are a person i can respect
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Posted by Thu Aug 27, 2009 9:21pm PDT
Report AbuseI would rather hear a woman for once say you know the guy over there thats making everyone laugh...He's actually a nice man...cause he's not doing it for attention like most think ...he does it because he likes to make everyone feel comfortable about them selves. Especially when he embarrasses him self to do it...
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Posted by Thu Aug 27, 2009 9:23pm PDT
Report Abusethe ones that need the drink are the ones we all dont need in our society today...they are the ones who are all about themselves and dont care about the other person on the other end...
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Posted by Fri Aug 28, 2009 3:05am PDT
Report Abusehi mr.TJ thanks for your comments.hve a good day to u and your family circle.G od bless u all.
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Posted by Sat Aug 29, 2009 12:35am PDT
Report AbuseTo be honest all it really is is that the girls are getting free drinks. I mean comon who dosent want free drinks yea it dose look pretty pathetic because these girls are all over these guys. But hey thats life and thats just how it is sometimes when these chicks go to the clubs you know free drinks and trust me thats sometimes the only thing these girls want nothing more not even a dance I have girl friends just like that and its annoying.
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Posted by Sat Aug 29, 2009 11:14am PDT
Report AbuseI'm older and I stopped drinking in my late 20's so the whole bar thing doesn't interest me at all, but when I dated I always thought for a first meeting or first date I should pay for my own drink/meal whatever or at least OFFER to pay my share. We are all in the same boat (especially with the way the economy is today) and of course it's appreciated and nice when a man does pay, but no woman should expect, assume or ask that a man buy her anything.
TJ, it might just be an age thing? Who knows...
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Posted by Sun Aug 30, 2009 9:40am PDT
Report AbuseI am a very independent lady so I typically buy everything on my own. It's nice to have a drink or dinner bought for you, but I have a gal friend that goes out and flirts and is a tease just to see how many drinks she can get guys to buy her. I find it very trampish!!!
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Posted by Sun Aug 30, 2009 12:21pm PDT
Report Abusei think that it is very funny to me for the reason being that these men come to the club and look for these things cause they keep coming and doin it repreatedly, and they know what goes down in the club. you got ladies who got their guyz pick they know that if they are toxicated and easy 2 get them 2 buy what ever they want from behind the bar then why not, thats saving money cause they want 2 get drunk and let some female flirt and tease them as long as they but dont touch then hey thats fine.. i dont think its trampish but i dont suggest you do it all the time.....
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