I've been feeling like this for about a month and a half now. I just can't seem to find anything on him!! But, I know when something is JUST NOT RIGHT! It's his behavior. Lately, he's been coming in the house later and later. I said something about that before and it seems to go in one ear and out the other. We both work and he goes to school full time, so we barely spend time together. We don't live together but we've been together for over 5 years. We aren't even engaged! Nothing! The only thing we do is see each other BARELY! So, when I said somehing about coming over late, he claimed he works out at home. Now, all of a sudden he works out!! Really! Spare me! A few times, he came in at 4AM!! Anyway, i gave him the benefit of the doubt. I just stopped asking. Then, a few weeks later, he starts going to the bar directly after work. Without me! He didn't call to tell me or anything. I just so happened the smell the alcohol on his breath! He never goes to the bar RIGHT after work without going home first. Could it be someone at work??!! Who really knows!
After all the signs that point to cheating, I decided to do some PI work!! I couldn't resist the urge to find the truth. So, the first night I "stalked" him I sat a few houses down from where he lives, and he never came home. That's how I found out about him going to the bar right after work. Earlier in the day I told him I was going out. That way I could follow him and see what he did when I wasn't around. So, that night was semi-succcessful. I didn't find what bar he was at though. When he finally got to my house I was already there. The next night, I said I was going out with my girlfriends cause we "didn't go the previous night".
This night, I was absolutely determined to find him. So, I pulled a psycho move and posted in a parking area close to his job so I could see his car and where he went. Luckily, I get off 1/2 before him, so I had time get there. I'm NOT CRAZY, by the way! LOL! Seriously, I had to know!! Anyway, he took all day getting off. I began to grow impatient. I called when I was outside to see if he'd lie about anything. Nothing. So, finally, he comes out. I'm not sure if he spotted me or not, because it seemed like when he pulled out and passed my hiding place, he sped off!! DAMN!! I'd lost him. So, I went and sat in the same driveway I did the night before. Nothing. Something told me to go to the bar down the street fom his house. VIOLA!! Found him! When I surprised him, he was coming out. He looked shocked and I looked pleased. No one was with him. We ended up going back in bar and having a drink.
That may have been a fluke! The way I feel is not right. Something is picking at me!!! I know something isn't right!he doesn't give me ANY attention anymore and he's so distant. Maybe he's just falling out out love with me. Everytime we have an opportunity to spend time together, he ALWAYS has something to do. Prime example. He didn't have school one day and I work second shift. We had the entire morning to be together. As soon as I got back from dropping my son at school, he wakes up and has to get his tires rotated. Like seriously, come on. No appointment or anything. And he had the next day off work! But get this, his day off work was my day off too. The last time that happened, he all of a sudden wanted to work OT! So, this time he wanted to go to school at night too!!! WTF!!!??? Like I said, something's not right. All I have to say is, what's in the dark, will come to the light. And that's gonna be the light under his A** if anything is up!
Thanks for listening!!! And please feel free to give me some advice. Cause I need someone to HEEELP!! Am I going crazy?? Or do I have legitamate concerns??
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