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Saturday, November 7, 2009

Is His Height A Deal Breaker?

Blame it on Jimmy Choo. More and more women are towering over their male counterparts these days.

While the average height for a man ranges between 5'8" and 5'11", popular high heel styles are stacked at 3, 4 and even 5 inches which means that if you're a stylish single woman on the prowl, chances are you might be looking down at your next date.

Rest assured, you're not alone. The Huffington Post just published a list of 14 Famous Couples With Taller Women and we must say, things are looking up. Many attractive and successful women have paired up with men who are, let's just say, vertically challenged. Janet Jackson towers over Jermaine Dupree, Mick Jagger is minuscule compared to L'Wren Scott and Sophie Dahl stands at least 3 inches above her beau, Jamie Cullum.

These women didn't stop themselves from falling in love just because they towered over their man. But they appear to be the exception and not the rule.

For years, women have been conditioned to believe that tall, dark and handsome is the only way to go. Breaking that mantra, specifically when it comes to height, is harder than it sounds. Ask any of your exceptionally tall friends why they are still single and they're likely to blame it on the fact that they refuse to date a shorter man. And by short, they mean anyone below 6'2".

What is it about being with a shorter man then that traditionally makes a woman wrinkle her nose? Is it her own self-consciousness or simply a matter of attraction? Are taller men simply more desirable? Photos: Discover The Psychology Of Attraction

Being tall usually gives a man self-confidence. Likewise, snuggling up to a taller man usually makes a woman feel better about her own proportions. There's nothing worse for a woman's self-confidence than realizing she weighs more than a man she's about to get naked with. Read: Sex & The Curvy Girl

Height has traditionally been a turn on because it can signal strength, power and point to other physical attributes as well...

So call it shallow. Call it short-sighted. When a woman sizes up a man, she's likely to drop her gaze if his head doesn't clear her shoulders.

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  • BennyC's Avatar
    Posted by BennyC Thu Jun 18, 2009 2:48pm PDT

    Well I don't have that issue, and not that it should be an issue. Height is but an obstacle for some, and a curse for others. I know of women that are not exactly happy with being tall, but have learned to live with it, and because of this they appreciate men especially those that see their height as something attractive and not odd.

    The next time you see a woman taller than you don't shy away, strike up a conversation and reap the benefits... Take it from a man that knows :)

    Chains.

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  • Geri's Avatar
    Posted by Geri Thu Jun 18, 2009 6:05pm PDT

    I personally don't have an issue if my guy is shorter. I'm 5'10" & once dated a guy who was 5'6" & I still wore heels. My current boyfriend is an inch shorter than me & I love wearing heals when I'm with him & he doesn't have a problem with it.

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  • M's Avatar
    Posted by M Thu Jun 18, 2009 11:09pm PDT

    I would never date a guy who's shorter than me. He should be taller than be even when I'm wearing heels. It's a personal preference and height would probably be my #1 deal breaker.

    I'm 5'9" and I dont think shorter guys would wanna date me either. Guys want smaller girls and girls want bigger guys! My guy has to be at LEASTTT 6ft. My real ideal would be 6'2"-6'3"

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  • Changshan's Avatar
    Posted by Changshan Fri Jun 19, 2009 12:13am PDT

    wear a high heels http://www.heelsunion.com/dior-c-10.html

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  • instrumentjamlord's Avatar
    Posted by instrumentjamlord Fri Jun 19, 2009 1:12am PDT

    Hey, you want to artificially limit your choices, knock yourself out. I just don't want to hear any whining about "Where are all the good men?" from somebody who refuses to date 95% of the male population.

    What stupid, meaningless criterion would you like used against you, so that you are the one who isn't even given a first look?

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  • Laura's Avatar
    Posted by Laura Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:02am PDT

    I am 5"8, and would ONLY date men who were taller than me, while I wore heels. Then I met a wonderful sweet guy, dark handsome, ripped - and 5"6. The fact that we had so much in common, enjoyed eachothers company so much, and eventually loved eachother, made a thing like height seem superfical. We just celebrated our first year of blissful marriage together :-)

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  • George's Avatar
    Posted by George Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:06am PDT

    As a tall man, I dont like shorter women. They just dont "fit" at 5'0". I can say Ive dated women as tall as me in heels (6'3"), and like it! Its nice to look someone in the eye, not the hair part. Size goes both ways..

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:13am PDT

    "instrumentjamlord" you are a shorty right? LOL! anyways, while short guys and exaggerated tall guys are a bit of a turn-off, it's not a deal breaker for me.

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  • Mysterious Gryphon's Avatar
    Posted by Mysterious Gryphon Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:54am PDT

    Height is definitely a deal-breaker! I would never date a man over 5'10".

    Why do I seek out "shorter" men? Because I'm 5'5", and I don't see any fun in craning my neck to look up at my date as if her were my dad. YUCK!

    I'm interested in a peer, an equal to love, not some giant monster who could throw me over his shoulder or tower over me parentally. I found the love of my life and he's 5'7", which is utterly ideal in every way. We are truly equals in out relationship, and he's a real man and self-confident enough not to bat an eyelash when I step out in 5 inch heels!

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Fri Jun 19, 2009 6:39am PDT

    Being looked down 'at' is usually fun, being looked down 'on' however is something different altogether.

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