is it me?him or the situation??we're done, it's over, my fault.i'm suffering!

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  Posted by springtime Sun Jun 29, 2008 7:54am PDT

  I thnk he's not getting in contact with you anymore because, really now, what guy wants all this drama? He's 29 and may be thinking about settling down. But no one wants to be in a relationship with someone who keeps flipping out. There's no sound foundation here, just shifting sand.

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  Posted by msjerseydragon Sun Jun 29, 2008 6:33pm PDT

  You should basically trust him untill he gives you a reason not to. You need to examine your own feelings before getting involved with him or any one else. Why did you freak out over petty things? I agree with springtime. No man is going to sign on for this much drama this early in a relationship. Try to take it down a notch. P.S. Don't tell him not to call or e-mail if you really don't mean it.

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  Posted by dekamemeloyelow Sun Jun 29, 2008 7:33pm PDT

  grl im in the same situation flip too all the way st8. But been dating a guy that my age. And with my guy is that we been on and off talking for about a 4 months. But didnt really start anything till the last month. Everything was going good till i found out he got a job in another state. He had 3 weeks left until he was leaving. Hasnt called me since then not even text email nothing. After saying he cares so much about me that were getting to attached. He told me he doesnt want a relationship but want us to remain good friends. How can u remain good friends with someone after being intimate and opening up to eachother. So i tried calling him for the past 3 weeks got nothing. I was feed up with this so i text him a nasty thing like i wasted so much time on u, dont call me no more it wasnt worth it ur not worth my time, all that stuff. Like what u said to ur guy. Only had 3 days left here. Never got a response back not even a goodbye call,text, or email. How messed up is that? I even emailed him before that didnt get back to that either. It seems like he more focused on his job and that his priorty in life. But the question to us. is how much effort we put and show our feelings when we get no response back. Im hurting alot right now because he just left. I never got nothing. I text him same thing u emailed ur guy but he didnt have the decency to get back. I dont know...

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  Posted by yaNNaBaNaNa Tue Jul 1, 2008 12:56am PDT

  first of all thanx so much for the advice..hmm..i kind of understand wat u mean summertime and msjerseydragon. I got ur point. and now i realized how much i'm overdoing it. i dnt knw, i guess its too late for me to try to patch things up and promise not to screw up again. im sorry for what happened to u and that guy dekamemeloyelow, i knw how it feels like, how much it hurts and its funny how we have the same situation. at least we can relate to each other..=)

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  Posted by ღĴęNňζ™ Sun Aug 24, 2008 7:06pm PDT

  Hello! I'm also a pinay like you, and I had exactly the same trouble you have. Most of us filipina women, we are so jelous and possessive. We tend to do everything for him to know we care, how much we love them & miss them and expecting the same in return; making sure that we are the only love of their life. You miss him so bad bcoz checking your inbox & phone calls have been a part of your daily routine & when calls & emails are getting less and less, we tend to think we are not the only one, and, the worst part, we tend to blame them for any stupid thoughts we have for not writing or calling us.

  Men fall in-love so fast but they also fall-out of love so fast, too. We can make them fall for us, but the thing is how to keep them. I lost my bf after 3 yrs in a relationship. Actually, we had plans to get married and so we stayed together, but I screw-up, I left him and now I wish I trusted him more. I am 39 & I don't know if I have this chances again.

  You are so young and you all have the chances to start(and re-start) your life again. My only advice to you is learn how to wait. We, women, we are different from guys. We are too emotional(that is natural) But, never talk your emotions to him. You're only making him scared(if he's not ready to commit)or making him take advantage of you(if he knows he owns you). Wait when he calls you and email you. Don't do the habit of calling him first. When you response to his emails, make it brief and make it a happy conversation. Sometimes, it is best to be quiet--just sit there and wait, but it do magic. Men love women who are QUIET and knows how to WAIT. Don't tell them how you feel or ask them about their plans about your relationship, they will fire back. If he is really interested in you, he will call(don't forget, make the conversation happy). Men love confident & happy women(not jelous and possessive)and you'll see the results. I know it is no easy but pretend the best you can. Goodluck.

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  Posted by yaNNaBaNaNa Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:16am PDT

  oh..thanx soo much for the advice..=) it really helps..

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  Posted by Kentucky Sat Jan 24, 2009 5:14pm PST

  Jealousy & Possessiveness is a miserable life for anyone. This will always ruin a relationship. If you don't trust them, then you don't need them. And, if you are constantly being accused of something u are NOT doing, especially in a new relationship, it is much easier to back off and end it before you (they) become more involved. Also, we women tend to be too open about our feelings for THE men we are, have, fallen for. Men are generally very primal when it comes to a relationship, like hunters, to them, quietly, methodically, and patience, when it comes to what they are hunting (deer, rabbits, or women). So, my advise is; email him just a nice friendly note, like, "I didn't want to end our special friendship on a bad note, so understand I do now understand I was moving too fast, and, You gave me no reason not to trust you. so, I hope that we can still be friends.". Say nothing else! Even if he replies, be like a deer, fox, whatever. DO NOT IMMEDIATELY REPLY TO HIM, no matter how much u want to, wait at LEAST 2-3 DAYS. Then, be yourself, DO NOT SAY THE LOVE WORD, and play the games men primally know, most Favorite of men, is THE HUNT, THE EXCITEMENT OF THE CHASE, THE CAPTURE. You must be coy, and NOT let him know he has captured you until He undoubtedly tells you firmly his expectations or commitment 2 you. YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT!!!

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  Posted by Kentucky Sat Jan 24, 2009 5:20pm PST

  Jealousy & Possessiveness is a miserable life for anyone. This will always ruin a relationship. If you don't trust them, then you don't need them. And, if you are constantly being accused of something u are NOT doing, especially in a new relationship, it is much easier to back off and end it before you (they) become more involved. Also, we women tend to be too open about our feelings for THE men we are, have, fallen for. Men are generally very primal when it comes to a relationship, like hunters, to them, quietly, methodically, and patience, when it comes to what they are hunting (deer, rabbits, or women). So, my advise is; email him just a nice friendly note, like, "I didn't want to end our special friendship on a bad note, so understand I do now understand I was moving too fast, and, You gave me no reason not to trust you. so, I hope that we can still be friends.". Say nothing else! Even if he replies, be like a deer, fox, whatever. DO NOT IMMEDIATELY REPLY TO HIM, no matter how much u want to, wait at LEAST 2-3 DAYS. Then, be yourself, DO NOT SAY THE LOVE WORD, and play the games men primally know, most Favorite of men, is THE HUNT, THE EXCITEMENT OF THE CHASE, THE CAPTURE. You must be coy, and NOT let him know he has captured you until He undoubtedly tells you firmly his expectations or commitment 2 you. YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT!!!

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  Posted by Kentucky Sat Jan 24, 2009 7:03pm PST

  Jealousy & Possessiveness is a miserable life for anyone. This will always ruin a relationship. If you don't trust them, then you don't need them. And, if you are constantly being accused of something u are NOT doing, especially in a new relationship, it is much easier to back off and end it before you (they) become more involved. Also, we women tend to be too open about our feelings for THE men we are, have, fallen for. Men are generally very primal when it comes to a relationship, like hunters, to them, quietly, methodically, and patience, when it comes to what they are hunting (deer, rabbits, or women). So, my advise is; email him just a nice friendly note, like, "I didn't want to end our special friendship on a bad note, so understand I do now understand I was moving too fast, and, You gave me no reason not to trust you. so, I hope that we can still be friends.". Say nothing else! Even if he replies, be like a deer, fox, whatever. DO NOT IMMEDIATELY REPLY TO HIM, no matter how much u want to, wait at LEAST 2-3 DAYS. Then, be yourself, DO NOT SAY THE LOVE WORD, and play the games men primally know, most Favorite of men, is THE HUNT, THE EXCITEMENT OF THE CHASE, THE CAPTURE. You must be coy, and NOT let him know he has captured you until He undoubtedly tells you firmly his expectations or commitment 2 you. YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT!!!

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  Posted by karol Mon Feb 16, 2009 11:30am PST

  Too much drama. Jealousy is a horrible thing to have. I fhe loves you, he will come back but like any relationship, it takes work. Everyone needs space.

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