Is it really always his/her fault?

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  Posted by Mauna Sun Nov 8, 2009 12:35pm PST

  I always had accepted my blame to my own failures out of my responsibility as had been a participant in my relationships of my 'choosing', however, as the concept still very deeply ingrained in many minds Today and Tomorrow..."OH, EVE made me fall....(christianity roots)" as thus, is spread to many others to this very day, to believe that anyone 'outside' their ROYAL realm, is fully to be blamed when things go sour as the so-called interpreted relationship between a man and woman ends. However, something for the Front line to answer...How in the Hell can anyone have a 'relationship' with "Power"? This in itself is non human (Sci-fi Machines covered over by Flesh and Blood who are only pretending to be HUMAN!)...NO one can have a balanced and fair relationship between male versus female when the ruling majority is highly addicted to all the wrong aspects of life which make the relationship end up being very DEADLY...1) Power 2) Money 3) Materialisms along with the addictions to be number one or win all the time. When are the Power houses of the front line going to take accountability in all their intentional destructions upon all those who are not made exactly like how they are! A programmed level who only continues to show why so many do not make proper 'choices; by a living conscience to know basic right and wrong good versus evil and to be able to make better choices in life...because the MACHINES RULE THE WORLD...yet as they were giving in to partying, drinking, and marriages, are they still today...until a Great natural disaster came about and washed them all away. Not one soul, IMO can have a good, flourishing, and successful relationship among all those who are permanently LOCKED IN ON HOMELAND SECURITY they are nothing but a regular pattern of competitions that lead many souls to their deaths and or rise up against each other.....(Oh! the bible again...another encoded way of thought process from the Great Machines on Homeland Security).

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  Posted by Climbing Sun Nov 8, 2009 1:57pm PST

  Well to me is like we don't always know what we want and so we make the wrong choices which happened in this case (Human picking human)to be called relationship. It didn't work so what it means wasn't someone that you're ment to be for a long time.

  Looking for faults is waist of time take the lesson and move on. Some people have an ego as big as China and won't woe to anything what you going to do wait till he changes? Good luck. Relationships are for people who can sit down and don't keep the defensive side 'on'.

  I'm not saing don't bother trying to communicate what went wrong but if you see defense and lowd and doesn't give you the turn to talk are signs of Ego. Usually goes wrong everytime the ego leads.

  By the way I have a saying about curiosity is a good one.

  "The cure for boredom is curiosity. There's no cure for curiosity"

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  Posted by Eva Leigh Sun Nov 8, 2009 8:25pm PST

  hey im in the sme boat if you would lik to talk preciouswoman_68@yahoo.com

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  Posted by Appletini Mon Nov 9, 2009 2:03pm PST

  Oh I know and can admit that most of it was my fault.

  For instance, having huge expectations and not following through at the right time. Having major doubts about somebody.. dating the wrong guys with substance abuse/alcohol problems. Letting a certain someone slip through my fingers because of a wretched choice I made and then hanging onto a resentment for five years. Refusing to try again because of a fear of getting divorced.

  I am alone and commitmentphobic now.. but I can change the things that made me lose and I probably do need a shrink but who doesn't? At least I can admit it, then I can work through and make better choices next time.

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