Love + Sex

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  Posted by Donald B Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:40pm PDT

  The worst realtionships I have had all started with sex on the first date and the best ones started with waiting at least a month.

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  Posted by Mary Fletcher Jones Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:46pm PDT

  Yes, by all means, have sex on the first date. What if you actually got to know the person and liked him and THEN discovered you were sexually incompatible? What a bummer THAT would be.

  I am half-serious, of course. Honestly I think it is roulette whether a relationship works or not. You can break all the rules and it can be great -- you can go by the book and it can be a shipwreck.

  The one thing I DO know. Sex changes everything. It is a bonding experience (at least in many cases) and sometimes it causes people to have feelings that don't really have any substance.

  It's all such a bloody mess I think we should all have arranged marriages.

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  Posted by caitie Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:12pm PDT

  I don't believe in sex on the first date. I nearly beat the **** out of some guy that tried. I am just not that type of girl.

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  Posted by tabjones4 Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:16pm PDT

  It depends on what you are looking for in the relationship. If you just want to be friends and need some bonding go for it although if you are looking for a long term serious commitment then hold off atleast 3 mos. If he loses interest by then, it wasnt' meant to be.

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  Posted by judy.dagenais Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:24pm PDT

  If you are looking for just sex, don't expect it to keep it a good relationship.

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  Posted by iloveit551 Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:30pm PDT

  I am a guy and i think it no wrong, 1 day is not enough time to know the person you are sleeping with.

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  Posted by Tati; Blacky Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:47pm PDT

  i say anit nothing wrong with it if u looking 4 a one nite stand.

  if u wanna see yourself with that person in the future DONT DO IT.

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  Posted by apple Sun Jun 29, 2008 5:55pm PDT

  First night sex in a couple's life is always filled with anxiety, nervousness, hesitation and there are many questions which creep up in the back of your mind but with proper guidance and information you can make your first night memorable. For many people, the first time is quite unpleasant. If it is an arranged marriage then it will be very much difficult to open up and be sexually motivated on the first night itself but just remember one thing - sex is not at all important on the first night, get to know each other better and take it easy. You can also begin with touching and kissing and exploring each other but have sex only if you are ready for it and you are comfortable. Sex under pressure is no good and it leads to bitterness and disappointments. Make sure that both of you understand each other and respect one another's feelings and desire's. However for a couples, who know each other, first time is easier since, you know each other's likes and dislikes, and are more comfortable with each other.

  Some women might have pain and bleeding during insertion because the hymen breaks. Men might have premature ejaculation. These things happen because it's the first time your body experiences such emotions and extreme passion but with time, all these will settle down. But you can always make your first time really special and cherish it all your life.

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  Posted by my2perfectbabygirls Sun Jun 29, 2008 6:08pm PDT

  Logically it's best to wait and get to know the person. Because the way things are today you wouldn't want to be catching any unwanted STD's (Which are all unwanted!)For that reason I would say wait.

  However, I went with a guy and we waited 2 1/2 months before having sex. He changed completely...thats all he wanted. Needless to say after a relationship that lasted 1 year and 5 months he was not the one for me, by anymeans.

  My boyfriend now and I had sex on the first date. And I have never found anyone one more perfect. Our chemistry is very good, most all the same interest. We've only not seen eachother 3 or 4 full days out of the near 5 months we've been together, and we can't get enough of one another.

  I don't think it really matters whether it's your first date or you're wedding night, sex is not the most important part of a relationship, it's one small part.

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  Posted by sweetness Sun Jun 29, 2008 6:44pm PDT

  sex one the first date!!! it can be wrong but not always. it depends on how well you know the person your going to be sleeping with that night. dont get my wrong but you have to know the person before you jump in bed with them.. you never know what he/she has. i mean you dont wanna get something.. DO YOU??? i would hope not! i know i wouldnt.. ive been with my boyfriend for a month and we've done it once. i said no more until we know where this relationshi is going.. he actually agreed with me.. lol

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