The study asked college students to rate the importance of various characteristics of their future mate. Back in the '30s men wanted women to be dependable, chaste and able to whip up a good meatloaf. Women wanted men to be ambitious and emotionally stable. Lust and love didn't even make the top three. These days both sexes rate mutual attraction and desire as the most important characteristic in their future mate.
"Marriage used to be a practical arrangement. Getting married for love or attraction was considered foolish and perhaps even dangerous," said the author of the study.
Eighty years ago college was an extended husband-finding exercise for many women so the gals participating in the study may have done more thinking about their future spouse, and thus been more realistic about what makes a marriage work. And since these days people are waiting to marry, people in their early 20s may not be thinking about long-term compatibility.
But maybe times really have changed, and everlasting desire is now a necessary component of marriage, while stability and dependability aren't. Or perhaps people are just deluded, and think that sexual chemistry is more important than it really is. What do you think?
Written by Sarah Harrison for YourTango.com
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