Is Lust More Important Than Emotional Stability?

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  Posted by JackieM Mon Feb 16, 2009 7:51am PST

  Personally, if he ain't stable "at home" then nothing else matters. Happiness before money!

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  Posted by Marce Mon Feb 16, 2009 9:52am PST

  Nowadays, women have become more independent, they dont need a man to feed them or put a roof over their heads. All they want now is a man that is honest, sweet, caring and passionate, they dont really care if he makes a lot of money or not...you can't buy love and passion....

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  Posted by JamesC Mon Feb 16, 2009 3:54pm PST

  i have been there 48 yrs.i don't know if it's love or lust but i still like it my wife does to or i think so shes still here

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  Posted by aeed20010a Mon Feb 16, 2009 10:59pm PST

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  Posted by Eric Warren Tue Feb 17, 2009 6:22am PST

  I have been married for nine years and together with my wife for just under 10. We met at work, fooled around, it wasn't meant to work according to ' traditional rational ' . But, wihin two weeks of fooling around, we started to talk about getting married. Did lust play any part in it absolutely?, absolutely!

  Does it still?, absolutely! I think that these days more than ever lust has to play an important role in a relationship in order to help it survive. Back in the 'good ol' days' when folks married for practical reasons, it was just, well easy to do. there wasn't much to talk about, or argue about. You simply lived your life worked hard ( or got rich, the gap between rich and poor was astronomical back then ), got married depending on you social standing, had kids, and died. No one questioned anything, because everything seemed to be natural.

  And then some idiot invented the light bulb, and the telephone, and the radio, and the tv, as this and that and this and that. Life is WAY more complicated than it was back then. We NEED something like lust to enhance our relationships, everything else in life stresses us out too much so we practice avoiding everything like conflict because we already have too much of it in our lives.

  My wife and I Love each other, we respect each other, we listen to each other even though we know sometimes we may not like what we hear. And we really like to f--- !

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  Posted by cindy Tue Feb 17, 2009 1:21pm PST

  hmm and they wonder why most marriages end in divorce. If that is the only thing that will keep you going, then it isnt going to last forever.

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  Posted by The Professional Tue Feb 17, 2009 3:52pm PST

  When i was 20 I was the type of guy who to me, women were just tools for me to use. I was never emotional attached, never was in love. Getting dates, relationships, sex was always easy for me, and it only got easier as i grew up. It got to the point where it felt like i was reading the same book, over and over again,. I realize that beauty was really skin deep.Sex was just sex, and a pretty girl was just another pretty girl to f--- . That was until I found my wife. She was different from most girls i was use to. Smart, Mature, Caring, but yet Beautiful, Independent, Funny, The list goes on. Before her I thought love was something hollywood made up, I was a cold person. She changed me and showed me what it was really like to love and be loved, and each day our love only grows stronger even after the 12 years we been married. Point is, anyone who says lust is more important than love is obviously not fully mutured. Sex without love is meanless, once its over and done it will be forgot as if you materbated. Love, on the other hand grows and are in your memories to cherish forever. Those who choose lust over love are either weak or never truely known love. Think about this: When your 50 do you want someone you love or someone you lust ? Will That person lust for you as much as you lust for them. Lust is for 20 year olds who need to learn who they really are and what they really want in life.

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  Posted by Cody Tue Feb 17, 2009 4:09pm PST

  Back then sex was a taboo topic and most people waited until they were married so lust couldn't have been a big deal to marry someone. And since the 30's people have been getting divorced more and more. Now that sex and sexual appeal is everywhere it has become part of our standards for a mate. And actually to me what you look for in a mate is totally personal. It all depends on who you are and what your values are. I for one do find lust to be an important part of finding someone. But I also look for chemistry and dependability. Can't it just be both instead of this or this?

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  Posted by Phoenix Tue Feb 17, 2009 7:54pm PST

  Geez after reading this article it's obvious why divorce rates are sky-high. The things that keep people together haven't changed at all. People's perceptions of what's in their own best interest have. Everybody's too focused on their own fleshly desires being satisfied over what will truly provide long-term happiness.

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  Posted by charming Raza Wed Feb 18, 2009 7:48am PST

  i am 20 Year old and single i want a frind

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