Love + Sex

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Is more sex the key to a successful marriage?

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According to the good pastor Rev. Ed Young, evangelical married couples need to be having more sex. He delivered the good word during a sermon to his some 20,000 followers on November 16, where he called for a week of "congregational copulation," referring to it with the rather snappy moniker, "Seven Days of Sex."

"...if you make the time to have sex, it will bring you closer to your spouse and to God, he has said. You will perform better at work, leave a loving legacy for your children to follow and may even prevent an extramarital affair.

'If you’ve said, ‘I do,’ do it,' he said. As for single people, 'I don’t know, try eating chocolate cake,' he said."--The New York Times

Zing! I dunno, can eating chocolate cake really compare to sex? I guess it depends on if you have a sweet tooth or not. Still, it seems like solid enough advice. Many couples counselors maintain that even having sex when you don't feel like it (hm) can have a beneficial effect on married life. And remember the recent books regarding couples that made vows to do it, oh say, 365 nights in a row? Seems like things worked out well enough for them.

Of course, sex may be a great panacea, but it can't erase all marital stressors. What do you think? Is a commitment to regular sex the way to keep your marriage off the divorce chopping block?
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  • manalocharles@yahoo.com's Avatar
    Posted by manalocharles@yahoo.com Tue Nov 25, 2008 5:04pm PST

    If there are problems at home, some people see divorce as the answer. More sex between these two people would not change those problems just like having a child would not save a failing relationship. Look at it like a band-aid: it's only a temporary fix; eventually, you'll have to heal the wound(s). Anyone-- (pastor, counselor, etc.) that suggests more sex should really suggest Great sex. What good is it if you do the act out of obligation? Do it with intensity. Sweat like two squirrels f**king in a wool sock. Perhaps that would shed some light to a rainy life. Still, day turns into night, and you will have to smooth out whatever problems you have IF you choose to avoid the bumpy (and expensive) road to divorce. Good Luck! - Charles

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  • enrique's Avatar
    Posted by enrique Tue Nov 25, 2008 6:24pm PST

    Yes ,I totally agreed with the pastor sex is the ticket all the way , people needs it and couples too.

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  • enrique's Avatar
    Posted by enrique Tue Nov 25, 2008 6:24pm PST

    Yes ,I totally agreed with the pastor sex is the ticket all the way , people needs it and couples too.

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  • jeffrey's Avatar
    Posted by jeffrey Tue Nov 25, 2008 9:40pm PST

    sex is good

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  • Josiah's Avatar
    Posted by Josiah Tue Nov 25, 2008 11:30pm PST

    I AGREE WITH THE PASTOR BUT SEX IS JUST ONE OUT OF ONE HUNDRED THINGS THAT MAKE UP A HAPPY MARRIAGE. THOSE OTHER AREAS SHOULD NOT BE NEGLECTED OR ELSE ONE OF THE PARTIES MAY BE SEEN ONLY AS A SEX OBJECT AND THAT WILL BREAD MISUNDERSTANDING IN THE FAMILY. THANK YOU.

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  • Fireyleo's Avatar
    Posted by Fireyleo Tue Nov 25, 2008 11:38pm PST

    I agree with Giggs

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  • TK's Avatar
    Posted by TK Wed Nov 26, 2008 12:48am PST

    I wish! My husband doesn't want sex as much as I do. He always wants it when I've had a particularly bad day at work or just a long day in general. What do I do? Half the time I say yes and half the time I say no. When I try to jump him he does the same. I figure we both work....we both have stresses ...when we both want it, it's the best ever! On those off times...well, one puts in more than the other. Thats what working through a relationship is about. I know people will disagree with me on this. But that's your own business. We use our swing regularly, as well as watch our porn, utilize our toys, utilize our games and are both happy.

    Wait...maybe after all I'm saying yes...sex does lead to a better marriage. Who knew?! ;-)

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  • Teena's Avatar
    Posted by Teena Wed Nov 26, 2008 2:03am PST

    That's absurd! 365 days of sex? 7 days of sex? For sure, these are male perspectives who do not consider the woman's body, or choice for that matter. Marriage is more sacred than that and a woman needs more than just sex to be loved. Get a clue!

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  • TylerW's Avatar
    Posted by TylerW Wed Nov 26, 2008 5:15am PST

    THE WAY I LOOK AT IT IS IF YOU AND YOUR LOVE ONE HAVE SEX EVERY DAY THEY ARE GOING TO WANT SEX TO HAPPEN EVERY DAY EVERY MIN THATS NOT HEATHLY FOR YOU OR YOUR LOVE ONE

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  • MsCts's Avatar
    Posted by MsCts Wed Nov 26, 2008 5:18am PST

    Bravo, Pastor Young and every hot blooded married person who agrees with him and God's word!

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