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Monday, December 7, 2009

Is more sex the key to a successful marriage?

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According to the good pastor Rev. Ed Young, evangelical married couples need to be having more sex. He delivered the good word during a sermon to his some 20,000 followers on November 16, where he called for a week of "congregational copulation," referring to it with the rather snappy moniker, "Seven Days of Sex."

"...if you make the time to have sex, it will bring you closer to your spouse and to God, he has said. You will perform better at work, leave a loving legacy for your children to follow and may even prevent an extramarital affair.

'If you’ve said, ‘I do,’ do it,' he said. As for single people, 'I don’t know, try eating chocolate cake,' he said."--The New York Times

Zing! I dunno, can eating chocolate cake really compare to sex? I guess it depends on if you have a sweet tooth or not. Still, it seems like solid enough advice. Many couples counselors maintain that even having sex when you don't feel like it (hm) can have a beneficial effect on married life. And remember the recent books regarding couples that made vows to do it, oh say, 365 nights in a row? Seems like things worked out well enough for them.

Of course, sex may be a great panacea, but it can't erase all marital stressors. What do you think? Is a commitment to regular sex the way to keep your marriage off the divorce chopping block?
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  • JC's Avatar
    Posted by JC Tue Dec 2, 2008 3:28pm PST

    Not unless is great sex. Otherwise its just another job :)

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  • diannar's Avatar
    Posted by diannar Tue Dec 2, 2008 3:54pm PST

    i disagree i think giving your partner attention hugs and kisses daily, and when you want too have sex is okay, not every night.

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  • So Blu's Avatar
    Posted by So Blu Tue Dec 2, 2008 4:48pm PST

    I think sex should never be routine period. It should occur naturally, spontaneously, and mutually between two consenting adults. If you are "in love" sex will just happen ... if not, see a marriage counselor or better yet, a pastor. Oh, wait a sec ...

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  • goodlove's Avatar
    Posted by goodlove Tue Dec 2, 2008 5:50pm PST

    sex is something that should bring two people closer together, something intimate just for two people.

    so it's not a totally bad way to bond with your boyfriend/girlfriend wife/husband spiritually.

    i know that when i do it with my boyfriend it's because he and i are in love with each other and we've never done it with anyone else. we will marry each other anyway, so we have sex to enhance our love for each other.

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  • TIFFANY P's Avatar
    Posted by TIFFANY P Tue Dec 2, 2008 8:51pm PST

    nooo i don't think that having more sex in marrage is to be successful. if all u guys do is have sex then ur marrage will never grow into what it should be. i think that marrage is a next step of comment. it is a give a take relationship and it should always be like that. even when things are bad.

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  • Julius's Avatar
    Posted by Julius Tue Dec 9, 2008 3:54am PST

    The Rev Ed Young was absolutely right in his pronouncements. What he initiated; is to me perfectly spiritual. It reflects the kind of sentiments I have always had about sex. Incidentally, what is most prevalent in real life are misconceptions that contribute to eluding couples of the strengths needed to live, confront the challenges of life and achieve what they set out to. Misconceptions like not having sex when you don’t feel like it. There is a secret and simple mathematics to it all. Couples can only achieve the optimum results in whatever they set out to do with a united front. Two people working like they are one. Synergy at work. In brief, I believe sex is the physical medium for progressively creating or binding a couple into one person. This however is the responsibility of the couple to effect. To conclude, the more sex you have the more you are bound together as one and the more you achieve as a couple

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  • mony1982's Avatar
    Posted by mony1982 Mon Jan 5, 2009 6:20pm PST

    know not really it just depend on what is going on in yur marriage and what you like in your marriage.

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  • Crystal N's Avatar
    Posted by Crystal N Fri Apr 17, 2009 10:22am PDT

    I know when my husband and I have more frequent sex, we get along much better and are both in better moods.

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  • Oomondievans's Avatar
    Posted by Oomondievans Thu Oct 29, 2009 7:22am PDT

    Exactly, sexuality is holy and ordained by God. ln the ancient world sex was not a public talk due to its holiness.lt was created by God for procreation,mutual comfort and enjoyment.

    ln the original design of God it was a thing to be enjoyed.However misuse of sex has brought down the wrath of God ie when pple choose not to be in God's purpose.

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