Is sex all that matters?
As a frequent Shine! reader (I’ve only posted one blog), I’ve seen a lot of blog post about people being sexually dissatisfied with their boyfriends/girlfriends, and this has caused me to raise an eyebrow. Now, I’m not a sexual prude or an anti-sex advocate, because I will jump on any chance to have sex with my boyfriend, but seriously, sex is not the only thing that matters in relationships.
I came across one blog today that was written by one guy who was upset because his girlfriend of three months didn’t want to have sex with him, and he was thinking about cheating on her to appease his sexual needs. I commend the girlfriend! Who knows someone well enough after three months of dating to give away a precious commodity such as their body? This girl is right on the money to not give sex to a guy who is obviously not in love with her, but is just with her for sex. He really proved that he cared for her, too, by stating that he wants to cheat on her. Give me a break! Is that love? No! If you truly love a person, SEX CAN WAIT! This guy obviously is using his head, but not the one located on top of his shoulders.
Another poster wrote in about how she was unhappy with her boyfriend because his package wasn’t big enough and sex was dissatisfying. Now, this man could be Prince Charming riding in on his white horse, sweeping this girl off her feet with flowers, poetry, song, and enough love to make any woman melt, but it’s not good enough. A guy who knows how to treat a woman but lacks in the sex department is not a great person to be with sexually is junk, but I bet Mr. Sexy Pants with balls larger than volleyballs and a package larger than a Major League baseball bat is fantastic, even though he’s an a**hole. Sometimes, ya gotta love stubmuffins—they give great sex. ~Rolls eyes~ Puh-leeze!
As previously mentioned, I’m no anti-sex saint; far from it. I love sex and I can’t get enough of it, but it’s not the most important thing. I enjoy the fact that my boyfriend and I can go to craft stores (how many ladies can say their men go to craft stores and enjoy it?), sip Starbucks coffee, and play Scrabble for long hours and talk about important issues—at least we have a deep relationship, not a shallow one based on sexual—24/7—sexual desires (even though a night of great sex brings us closer). These things mean more to me than a night of great sex ever will. Why don’t more people think this way instead of focusing their whole livelihood on when the next sexcapades occurs? Relationships aren't just built on sex alone, because relationships are built on SO MUCH MORE!
~Sigh~
Here’s my advice to those who think sex means everything: go buy a giant vibrator and stick it where the sun doesn’t shine and turn it on. Maybe the vibrator can shake some sense into ya while it shakes the crap out of ya. Maybe then, people can get their priorities straight.
If people keep thinking sex is the most important thing, there’s going to be a lot of lonely people out there because they’re always going to be unhappy. If one partner isn’t good enough, who’s to say that partner B, C, D, E, etc is going to fulfill al your sexual desires and fantasies? People have the potential to find flaws with everyone sexually, simple as that. Think about this: if people don’t prioritize and start thinking that sex isn’t that important, there’s going to be a lot of single 95 year-olds in the nursing home. By then, will sex be important? You’ll be pretty lonely and the only person who will see you naked is the nurse who is changing your diaper and giving you a sponge bath. Is sex that important? What about friendship and LOVE?
Think on it!
~Marisol out!
