I would like some advice on some matters of the heart. I met a wonderful man last November, at a time in my life where I was feeling really down about what life had in store for me and my kids. He was always available to me! Whenever I wanted to talk or come over, he was all for it. Of course, over time, things began to happen a little differently. My kids are young, so always having a sitter became an issue for me and I was unable to come over as often as we would have liked and spend the night. And eventually it began to take a physical toll on me to work all day, go home and do the "Mommy Thing", get them ready for the next day and drive for 20 minutes to see him. By the time I would get to his house some nights it would be 11:00, and we rose before the sun the next day so that we could both work. So eventually after about 4 months of that, exhaustion took hold of both of us; and that's when the problems began. Since then, we have gone thru a gamut of emotions and thoughts about why things have had to change, and as a result we are now seperated for the 3rd time! Somehow I don't feel like we'll ever come back form this one though. With the build up of saying mean things to one another, never letting one another live down our mistakes and the thoughts of infidelity on both parts, I feel we have no foundation to build upon. Do I love him? YES! But the question is, with all that has taken place and all that has been lost, is there anything left??????
Is There Anything Left?
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Posted by Fri Aug 8, 2008 11:53am PDT
Report Abusehey girl i do understand and you can never go back. things will never be the same. so has hard as it is you will have to just move on. i have 3 boys myself and was recently single. i went through a previous relatonship exactly like yours and as hard as it was we had to go our seperate ways. i told myself never again. but i meet the most wonderful man recently. he has no kids and does not want any but he has totally feel in love with my boys. i mean dont get me wrong he feel in love with me first but when he feel in love with my kids it just sealed the deal. so let this relationship go and i promise you just when feel there is noone out there for you dont give up. because the good lord will bless you with an angel like he did me. plus you need someone that doesnt take away from you being a mother because at the the end of the day the only people that are going to love you the way you truly deserve to be loved are you babies so always give them the 100% they deserve. i hope i have helped some please contact me back and let me know how things are going at wwwbrokenwings@yahoo.com GOD BLESS
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Posted by Fri Aug 8, 2008 12:10pm PDT
Report AbuseI've had many relationships and the one thing that seems clear is that 3 separations since November is a warning sign. That's all I got!
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Posted by Fri Aug 8, 2008 1:22pm PDT
Report AbuseOMG!!! Your life sounds exactly like mine. I can't speak for you but for I decided to let it go and if we were meant to be together then we will be. And I have to admit it is heck to go through. We have been separated for almost a month and it seems like it's not getting easier to deal with. But everyday a I get up and Thank God that I did wake up and ask him to take this man out of my mind but not my heart. Dating with children can be very difficult but you have to have faith that there is something out there better for you....you won't find it if you keep holding on to the past. Good Luck!!!!
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Posted by Fri Aug 8, 2008 6:16pm PDT
Report AbuseGosh give yourself a break on this one. Things got out of control and given the circumstances neither of you were operating from a "calm/sand mind set"....Your schedule alone would doom even the best of us.....I can't even imagine doing that much juggling for even one week. Let things cool down big time, no contact. At some time you can apologize for your part and explain where you were coming from and let it go. He may or may not apologize but that's him....you never know what the future holds with him or someone new. Just look at the lessons you can learn from this experience and take a deep breath and move on. Good luck.....things will get better.
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Posted by Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:07pm PDT
Report AbuseWow that sounds just like something I been going threw.... I am sure it took a toll on u just like it took a toll on him. But its 1 thing I think u2 should think about I am not going to sit up here and blame him or u but ask yourself why do me and this guy keep breaking up.... I think before any of u blame each other u2 need to do some soul seaching.Because it has to be a reason, people just dont break up 4 no reason. But let me tell u my story first then maybe u could understand where I am coming from...... My women was coming over my house just like u was going over your man house but when she came it was late night and the kids was sleep. When we first met she told me that before she met me she was doing the same thing so her coming over my house was no problem..... The problems started with us is when she got pregancy not because I did not want the baby because I did. Plus I have no kids she as 2 so this would have been my first. I was so happy about this baby I didnt know what to do. Out of No where me and her started beefing for 2 weeks she did not call me or anything and then She sent me a IM on the computer telling me first she lost the baby then 2 hrs later she told me she had a abortion. First of all why she didnt call me the same day it happen then waited 2 weeks to tell me then. she was not women enough to call me so she sent me a IM on the computer tell me she had a miscarriage. Right there all my trust 4 this women went out the door right there. I know a women is going to do whats best for her but at least we could have talk it over I would have try to talk her out of it but we made this baby together she atleast owe me that.... After that I try to get pass the baby and forgive her thats when all the infidelity issue came in.... How can a women want u to trust them when they play games with u... a person only going to think what u dish out to them.... I know in relatonship we all play games at 1 point but u should never take it to far.... I was faithfull to this women, Never and I do mean never cheating on this women This women as 2 kids I love her kids like thay are mine. I would do anything in my power for her and them kids. So ladies before u can sit up her a dog this man U have to understand it takes 2 to make it work..... You should give your comment to this women but understand she play a part in it to. If u and this guy really love each other u can make it work U have to have faith and put it in GOD hands..... But understand this if u both not willing to give 100& its not going to work.... DO WHAT I DO PRAY TO GOD HE WILL GIVE U ANSWER..... TRUST ME IT WORKS
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