Is Your Relationship Headed For A Dead End?

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  Posted by ali_1234 Tue Mar 17, 2009 1:45pm PDT

  hello

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  Posted by tantina Tue Mar 17, 2009 8:25pm PDT

  I am surprised there are so few comments on this. I found it to be right on target! I am number 7 (one partner fills in the blanks). I thought I had found the perfect man for me - - he certainly impressed me with his intelligence and love for words via creative writing and intelligently conversing. I am not prone to falling in love, so I crept in. He promised much, and delivered very little. By the time I allowed myself to succumb, he had already begun to grow more distant. Last summer, when I realized I was in love all by myself, I was shocked that I could still feel so devastated after such a long time of being out of relationship (until him). Now, I see him for what he is - - a dreamer who will never be able to reach his goal, and I am far too sensible to be with someone like this. As good as it seemed, but I should have adherred to my first or rather, second early inclination. He is a nice, charming, intelligent and gifted person, BUT- - simply not the right fit for me (and probably no one else either).

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  Posted by James Wed Mar 18, 2009 6:09am PDT

  half the stuff in this article is dealing with my love life

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  Posted by ebonyw Wed Mar 18, 2009 6:22am PDT

  well I'm the one always patching things up and fixing my partners broken wing everytime. Afeter a while, he starts putting alll his dependency on me and it gets overwhelming when I'm unavailable to help. He doesn't seem to understand and always is telling me I'm all he has. Lately i've been seeing the way other people treat him, now I really believe I'm mostly all he has. I love to help him in any way I can, but I just want him to understand that I'm struggling just like he is.

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  Posted by Esethu Wed Mar 18, 2009 6:46am PDT

  wel the thing is in our relationship it seems im de only 1 who cares about it. i just dont knw wht to tink becoz tings were going just fine in de past 8 months whn we started dating bt tings have changed nw de guy calls once in a while an all i want to knw 4rm hm is does he stil care about de relationship or nt bt i for 1 i stil lv hm wit all ma heart bt willing to let hm go if dats wht he wants

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  Posted by tina Wed Mar 18, 2009 7:51am PDT

  I do most of the taking care of, but that's just how I am. I care very much about him and I know he doesn't expect me to make dinner and clean and do the dishes, but I also know he appreciates when I do, and he is always willing to help if I am too overwhelmed with a task and ask for help. I love him a lot, and he is the first person I can truly be myself around. He has a lot of problems that I can't help him with, but he knows I care. I'm not on that list, not that I thought I was, but I have been there before. He was supposed to only be a date, no relationship ( I had just gotten out of a horrible one) and now here we are. Just goes to show that love finds you when you're not looking for it =)

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  Posted by J.J.M. Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:09am PDT

  I'm completely emotionally unavailable, I think. It doesn't seem to matter who I date, there just isn't anything there. I enjoy myself, but I've stopped asking women out recently since it seems I never can connect on anything other than a friendship level.

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  Posted by Eryn_Lindsay Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:24am PDT

  ANY relationship can survive. Read the book "The 5 Love languages." It is truly amazing and a true relationship saver...Unless of course you dont want to save the relationship. Haha!

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  Posted by MeghanR Wed Mar 18, 2009 9:21am PDT

  I disagree with some of this, from reading the full article. For example, both my fiancee and I entered the relationship with "broken wings" And as time has gone by we have leaned on each other and helped each other heal. I can't see how that is a problem. If one person is constantly doing the "fixing" and they are they personality type that enjoys being caring and nurturing, I don't see a problem with that either. I think at the end of the day it all comes down to what you are each getting out of the relationship. If you are supporting each others needs, are able to communicate with each other, and are growing in your relationship, no matter what status you entered it in, that's what's important.

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  Posted by yaya Wed Mar 18, 2009 9:23am PDT

  Well I guess I'm not that surprised... I've recently become very cognizant of the problames in my relationship... and I agree with the article completely. I know what I have to do... I just dont know how

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