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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Is Your Sex Drive In Sync With His?

Two weeks ago, I was playing basketball with a few friends when as usual, the conversation came around to women. Two of the guys happen to be in long term relationships, and another has been dating a girl for just over a month (alas, I'm the only one not currently in a relationship). For some reason or another, we all started boasting about our insatiable sexual appetites and how none of us could ever seem to get enough.

Well this afternoon, while having lunch with a few female co-workers, this group of women began talking about how they never seem to get all the loving that they want. One of the women happens to be the girlfriend of one of my friends, and though I didn't betray his confidence, I couldn't help wondering how neither of them seem to be on the same page.

As a matter of fact, it sounds like they are completely out of sync sexually. She says that she always wants more, but he says that she can't handle all that he gives her.

Personally, I always like to have that conversation at some point during the opening stages of a relationship, but I guess that not everyone does. I like to know that my sexual partner and I are not only on the same page, but that we're on the same paragraph, or better yet, within words of each other on the same line.

So, I'm curious...

Do women ever really feel that they're not getting all that they want, or is that just "girl talk"?

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  • Chunka's Avatar
    Posted by Chunka Fri Mar 20, 2009 12:42pm PDT

    well I can't speak for all women but I know I can't get enough and I actually would like to spice things up to. I like to dress up role play but hes so into routine its good don't get me wrong but It could be ten times better. I wish I could go back in time when we used to do it 4 times a day now its like twice a week thats maybe twice. So I think some women are really telling the truth about that because I have a high sex drive and I'm always roaring to go but he never seems to roar as much as me .

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  • LoverLumps's Avatar
    Posted by LoverLumps Fri Mar 20, 2009 1:13pm PDT

    I think it just depends on the people. Me and the hubby have really high sex drives so we fit perfectly we fit each other so well in so many other places as well. We never fight and we love the same things and do everything together and can finish each others sentences and we have all the same thoughts... it is kinda scary sometimes LOL. We even dress alike it is that bad LOL but in all we have bonded so well you cannot tell where 1 starts and 1 ends lol!!! Men/ Women need different signals for them to get into the mood so if they can work on each other to get the right mood all the time life would be amazing!! You know sex is great time for bonding or bondage lol and a great stress reliever. Sex at any time is good and adventurous and keeps ya going and give you plenty of energy or can wear you out for a good night of sleep. So find ways to make it work and you will never be bored!! Some people make a hype about it too... so you just never know.. trying new things to keep it going helps and can make you feel even sexier! Most women like romance and men love the raw I WANT YOU. I don't need the romance i need the I WANT YOU NOW and there we go.

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  • Jamie S's Avatar
    Posted by Jamie S Fri Mar 20, 2009 2:12pm PDT

    When my DH and I started dating we talked about out sexual wants and needs. We thought we were pretty similar. When we were with partners we had sex a couple times a week. But as our relationship grew so did our sex life. Before we were married we were having sex everyday. Even the morning of our wedding. Now its morning, noon and night. I love it and him. We can't get enough of each other. And we try to work spontaneity into the routine. We usually go on a special shopping trip once a month and find something new to try.

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  • Sadie T's Avatar
    Posted by Sadie T Fri Mar 20, 2009 4:41pm PDT

    I can NEVER can get enough. You're right...it doesn need to be addressed. People act like everything should come naturally and you'll both just be magically perfectly satisfied! I've had to tell my BF numerous time...I need more!! It's not an Easy conversation...I had to write down my thoughts to make sure not to be hurtful...the sex is great but I need it like...Every day!!! ;) And why not?

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  • Samantha's Avatar
    Posted by Samantha Sat Mar 21, 2009 12:12am PDT

    No we seriously feel like that sometime we just cant get all that we want and its nothing against the guy or anything its just that we aren't all to sure on how you will take it if we come out and say we want more from you during sex. If we say it wrong you feel like your not good enough and that's not what we were getting at all and if you say it wrong to us we feel like we aren't good enough for you or that we are giving enough. So its more on when and how you say it not if your should or shouldn't say it because if you want a relationship to last for a good amount of time you need good communication.

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  • daisy c's Avatar
    Posted by daisy c Sat Mar 21, 2009 8:28am PDT

    hi am a new member and am so glad to find people going through what am going too, unfortunally is so sad depressant and emotionally hurt am going through worse am in a relationship for almost 2 years and when i met my boyfriend i didnt know he was unable to have sex well he pretend he could but by the time when by he admits ti me he try but he can is hard for him to pleased a woman because he feels but cant have his pinus hard i love him to pices but i need his love ans his body and i cant when i try to get close to him he refusse we try using toys at the beggining but that so fake i need him not a toy . i feel so sad , rejected,alone,unwanted just for company,we sleep together but like brother and ai get fustarated please comment me for advice t.y

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    Posted by daisy c Sat Mar 21, 2009 8:34am PDT

    hi am a new member and am so glad to find people going through what am going too, unfortunally is so sad depressant and emotionally hurt am going through worse am in a relationship for almost 2 years and when i met my boyfriend i didnt know he was unable to have sex well he pretend he could but by the time when by he admits to me he try but he can is hard for him to pleased a woman because he feels but cant. get his pinus hard i love him to pices but i need his love ans his body and i cant when i try to get close to him he refussed. we try using toys at the beggining but that so fake i need him not a toy . i feel so sad , rejected,alone,unwanted just for company,we sleep together but like brother and ai get fustarated and we planing to get married what you think shoul i or should i not? please comment me for advice t.y

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  • ButterScotch's Avatar
    Posted by ButterScotch Thu Aug 13, 2009 6:01am PDT

    Well been away from the site for quite a while but im back and jsut as I thought Terry you have not let me down you are still giving me something to relate to and be open an honest about something real you know not just wanna be thoughts and ideas. and to comment on htis particular blog No im not very compatible sexually with my fiance he is a insatiable lover always wanting more...Of course I do my best to oblige him but sometimes I just can't keep up. I'm glad he love me for more then what I can offer him in bed. But in all other aspects I would say that we are fairly compatible.

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  • Tammy's Avatar
    Posted by Tammy Fri Sep 18, 2009 9:42pm PDT

    Im so surprised to hear from more woman that feel like I do, I thought I was alone in feeling that Im not getting enough, or that sometimes Im the only one touching and carressing, and if I say something he gets mad and says Im just being sensitive

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