It's a simple yes or no answer but I got........

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  Posted by Sarah Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:36am PDT

  Wow lady...I don't think I would accept that answer at all! I understand that people get drunk and do things that they may not remember, but that's huge...there had to be some indication to him as to whether or not he did it! You might have been "broken up," but it definitely does matter that he is being honest with you. "I don't remember" is about the biggest cop-out I've ever heard!

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  Posted by ShondaP Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:54am PDT

  I know I'm a little too young to comment about this, and I know that this may happpen to me when I'm older. From watchin Maury and Oprah, all those good shows, I 'd say that he's been lying the whole time. He obviously didn't know what he was saying when he said, "I don't know". You should've known right there that he did do it. Have you tyred a lie detector test yet?

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  Posted by Dynastydime Tue Jun 10, 2008 8:16am PDT

  Ok so I don't normally comment I just read the blogs and take from it different life lessons, but I could not help myself. For a man to not be able to look you in your eyes and tell you yes I did or no I didn't sleep with my ex girlfriend ( who by the way should not even be close enough to him that she's hanging out with he and his friends...and by herself at that is too close) Whether you felt like she was a threat or not b/c you're a better person inside and out than she is doesn't matter, your husband has had a sexual and personal relationship with her in the past so there will always be a certain level of familiarity that they will have, especially with them remaining so close. Any respectable woman that's friends with a married man should not EVER be in their house without his wife present whether he invited her or not!!!

  I'm sure your husband can tell you if he spent a few thousand dollars on your break or where he and his friends went out while you were apart(who by the way prob weren't there and if they left them alone thay know what was going to happen and would never betray him by dishing out his secrets)This man could prob tell you things that were going on at work but he WON'T and not can't tell you that he fu*%$# his ex girfriend who has been in your house before and probably in your bed. Good luck with that one because if your can't trust him it's going to go downhill from where you are back at now. The least he can do is man up!!!

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  Posted by Tasia Tue Jun 10, 2008 8:55am PDT

  I WAS JUST CUMMING THRU N IT SO HAPPENS THAT I CAN PASS SOMEONE GO THRU THE SAME SITUATION I DO BUT ITS DIFFERENT...I READ UR BLOG I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW U TRUELY FEEL.MEN REALLY DONT REALIZE WAT THEY LOSE UNTIL THEY FIND OUT WAT THEY HAD WAS GOOD.I HATE THE FACT THAT WHEN U ASK DEM IF THEY DID DO DIS N DAT N THEY STILL LIE ABOUT IT...THATS THE MOST HURTFUL PART U KNO U KNO THE TRUTH BUT ALL U WANT DEM 2 DO IS TELL U WATS GOIN BUT THEY CONTINUELY TO KEEP LIEING.ITS HURTS ME BECUZ MY BOY=FRIEND WELL FRIEND NOW HE A TYPE THATS NOT LIKE AN CHEATER BUT WE ALL KNO ALL MEN CHEAT N THERS NOONE OUT HERE WHOS FAITHFUL.BUT HEY dnt let ur MAN fool u n TELL THAT HE DIDNT F%*# HIS EX GIRL+FRIEND....HE DID DNT LET IT PASS U EITHER OR DONT LET IT STRESS U OUT.......

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  Posted by Tasia Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:00am PDT

  I WASNT FINISH BUT ITS I DO HAVE MORE 2 GO N 2 TELL U ABOUT!!!!!

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  Posted by Corrina Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:27am PDT

  DANG I WOULD NOT BE WITH HIM ANYMORE BUT THEY ALL WAYS USE THE WORD FORGIVE AND FORGET BUT I KNOW FOR A FACT IT WILL ALWAYS BUG YOU BECAUSE TRUST AND BELIVE IF I WAS IN THAT PLACE THAT YOU ARE IN IT WOULD BUG THE HELL OUT OF ME!!!!

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  Posted by EllaJ Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:47am PDT

  Trust is a big must for a relationship to work. The answer he gave you was a very lame one.Lots of people get drunk sure but for one thing the ex-girlfriend would NOT be around him much less have the chance to be alone getting drunk with the guys.SO more than likely your man did have sex with ex in your bed. If he will do it once it will happened again.

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  Posted by shaun Tue Jun 10, 2008 11:59am PDT

  ME BEING THE LADY I MA HELL NAW SHE UP IN MY HOUSE TO MAN THAT IS A DEATH WITCH I DON'T PLAY WHEN IT COMES TO CHEATIN I WILL LET YA ASS GO QUICK JUST LIKE I FOUND YOU I CAN REPLACE YOU TO

  WHAT THESE MEN DON'T NO IT'S TO MANY GOOD LADYS OUT HERE SO IF THEY WAN'T TO f--- UP THAT IS ON THEM NOT ME (TRUST)

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  Posted by siri Tue Jun 10, 2008 12:03pm PDT

  You obviously are not going to trust him from this point on. And he obviously doesn't respect you from the moment he was getting drunk with his buds and this woman. He didn't respect your relationship enough (drunk or not) to allow this woman into your home and then says he doesn't remember if he slept w/her?

  Relationships are built on trust and respect. I'm not saying that it's never happened to anyone else or that your the first or last woman to deal w/this issue. What I want to say is (like i've stated here before) is how much do you love yourself and do you think you deserve this? If you feel you can't live without him - and that you love him - and know he really loves you - then I suppose like most women you'll stay with him. You'll torture yourself and him throughout your relationship and he w/most likely do it again,and again, and again...

  and 20 years from now - you'll probably see history repeat itself right before your eyes and think back when you first went through it yourself.

  I wonder what advice your going to give your son or daughter? And if they'll even bother listening since (you) went through it - lived it - and still say you love em.

  good luck.

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  Posted by Goldendelux's Princess Tue Jun 10, 2008 6:34pm PDT

  Wow. I would kick his ass just for her being there. What the hell is another woman, an ex at that, doing in your house!!!!!!!!! You dont go to another womans home when she is not there. (It should be a law) Anyway, Ive been through this kind of bull before. My man was never dumb enough to bring another woman in my home. That is just wrong. I would have to move. You have to ask yourself, do you love him, can you live without him, do you have kids? If you don't have children I would seriously entertain the thought of moving on. Ive been with my man for 7 yrs, we have three children. The first 4 years were pretty much cheating lies and deception. We broke up for 9 months, he changed and everything is great. A man has to grow up on his own. But if you love him that much you HAVE to forgive and forget and TRUST him again if you stay and you dont do this you will drive yourself insane. Always do what you want to do. Dont listen to o he's a cheater leave him. If you love him work at it. If you cant get past it you need to leave for your own insanity. This will make you a crazy person and it will be taken out on the next guy if you dont get yourself through this crap. Again do whats best for you. I hope everything works out for you, whatever that may be.

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