So! This is my first post but i thought it
was a good topic. I recently commented on another post
talking about how we judge each other. And I have a theory i would
like to share. I want your opinions too!!!
I think everyone is basically the same.
And the reason we judge each other -especially women- is because
another person is going through something we will either likely go
through or have already experienced. It's just that the
other person is doing it at a different time than ourselves, so it
gives us something to talk about.
Did that make sense?
Basically, it's like this. Have you
ever noticed that "skankiest" girl you know is often the
person talking about how another girl is extremely
"skanky"??? It seems to be the case more often than
not. Just a thought to digest. Or i have said something
like "wow, she's way too dressed up or concerned with her
looks." But have i never done that? Actually i
used to wear way too much make up and try to be sexy
constantly. I would just judge based on MY current
situation!! Let me know what you all think!!!
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Posted by Wed Dec 24, 2008 7:34am PST
Report AbuseI work for a large company and in doing so I have a lot of fellow employees that I work with. Because of random lunch "hours", it varies everyday depending on your work load or schedule, you end up sitting with different people almost every day. In doing so you learn about their children, home improvements, family illnesses, etc. You also hear women talking about other women. And surprisingly, at least for me, it is very cut throat. When sitting with men you will hear someone say that so and so is an as_ . or something to that affect but very seldom do you hear it as much more then that. The comments between men and women seem to be like night and day. I am not saying that it is the norm. But it seems to be where I am employed. I have noticed that women will talk about how someone is dressed for "after work and not for work". Where for me most of the time a dress is a dress. A pant suit is a pant suit. I don't see different grade levels in the clothes. But by the same token if someone comes in with non-work enviroment clothes it will be mentioned to them. I have yet to see that happen.
Often first impressions are a very strong impression that you get of someone. Then it takes time for that first impression to be overwritten in your mind. Do we judge people on first impressions ? Very much so, I am afraid. It is hard for a person not to. You use your senses to "learn" about that person in the short time that you are in contact with them. Then that image is planted in your mind. A person who is very nervous may stutter. Say "ahh" every couple of words. Speak fast. Or speak very slowly, looking for his or her words. They may seem like "airheads". When in reality they are not.
I try not to make first judgements a lasting one. I won't say that it has not happened to me before But at least I give it an honest effort. lol
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Posted by Mon Feb 9, 2009 12:48am PST
Report AbuseJudging someone isn’t our jobs but we do it anyway. I worry about my looks and weight but I never judge or criticise someone else about theirs. And for the people that do, some do it for the joy of talking about another and others just don’t know that the person they are criticising is probably just like them. People in living in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, REMEMBER THAT!
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