Just what is the "Male Role" in a relationship?

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  Posted by Ms. Crys* Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:35pm PST

  TNZZZZZZLEY* right-on with this blog. Men are inconsiderate now a days. I just lost my job 2 weeks, ago, and it seems the boyfriend of 6mths went with it. I expected, some emotional and financial help* I have only seen him once and heard from him 2wice... Seiously, back in yesteryear... men wnated to take care of women, this shows what kind of husband they would be in the future... * I just learned how not to expect anything from anyone but myself after that kind of let down.

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  Posted by Zom-B Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:37pm PST

  Jesus Christ. And HOW old are you??

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  Posted by SILENT KNIGHT Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:37pm PST

  Men and Women were made to compliment each other...A Man is a King, but everything with a penis isn't a Man and neither is wanting to be one beyond all common sense. A Woman is his focus point or Queen. The true test of a Man is his relationship with his Woman. Society values brackets and overly opinionated traditions rather than the truth. The source of life is love and if Men and Women don't learn how to take care of each other better there wont be anything worth living for. Love is as natural as breathing if you allow yourself to. Once a close bond is achieved there are no roles...there can only be one mind, one heart and one soul...one love.

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  Posted by Zom-B Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:45pm PST

  And what, pray tell, is the "woman's role" in a relationship? To take and take and complain whenever she's asked to contribute something?

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  Posted by rosa Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:52pm PST

  I think the man will pitch in where needed if he really cares for the female..

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  Posted by Enchantedbyeu Tue Nov 24, 2009 8:05pm PST

  it's not a role, it's a partnership. trust and mutual respect required. it feels easy and natural. you feel safe. hard work necessary to grow.

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  Posted by Alvin Tue Nov 24, 2009 8:08pm PST

  I think yournger guys don't know there roles as well as younger women. Older men and women rememeber the way dating used to be. Question: If that man mowed your lawn and did not charge you would you have a sandwich and a glass of tea waiting for him? If he repaired your car for you and he need a lift some where would you give him a lift? My point is both sexes have a long way to travel to get back to the way things were. Then again we may never see those days again.

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  Posted by Courtney B Tue Nov 24, 2009 8:10pm PST

  Hmmm....this is a tough one. I've been married for 8 years and we've definitely had our ups and downs. But my hubby's basically a great guy and we seem to be doing a good job of raising our kids together (ages 4 and 6), so far anyway! Honestly, I think the "Male Role" (and the female role for that matter) in the relationship depends on the relationship itself. Both need to be mutually agreed-upon, mutually respected, and flexible enough to accommodate the needs of the couple at the time. There have been times when I've made more money than him (particularly before the kids came), which was never an issue for us. He does most of the cooking (because he likes it), and I seem to make most of the decisions when it comes to the kids' educations, doctor visits, etc. I think it's tough to set hard and fast rules for either role...without knowing the particular couple.

  Overall, it's in my nature to be more sensitive, more forgiving, and more emotional about things. He is definitely more dominant, and prefers to be in charge of things! He also tends to see things in a more "black and white" manner, and doesn't really get emotional very often. I guess, in this way, we are kind of stereotypical. I think the key is that we're learning to accept, respect, and even learn from these tendencies within each other...instead of him being annoyed with me for being irrational and me being irritated when he's bossy! That's my take on it, for what it's worth!

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  Posted by Angela Tue Nov 24, 2009 8:15pm PST

  If a man cares about the woman he will help her move, mow the lawn, and wash her car. If he don't won't to help the woman he claims he really care about, then he should get to stepping and let a real man come into her life.

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  Posted by Tinzley Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:49pm PST

  Thank you for your comments, many of you had some valid points. What I can say is, it's not about keeping count of who does what or how many times it's done: it's about friendship and love and these are two things that will be the glue to any successful relationship. I can say that if things aren't done from the heart, then one shouldn't have to be forced, or it could seem un natural.

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