Knocked Up

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  Posted by Justin's cowgirl Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:22am PST

  Here's a female's advice: I'm sorry that you are in this situation. I know you realize you made some mistakes so I'm not going to lecture you, I just hope you learned something. The same thing happened to my father. After he and my mom got divorced, he got a woman pregnant, but didn't want to marry her. You need to start by getting a paternity test when the baby is born. I guess there could be a possibility that it's not your baby. Right now, you need to sit down with her and explain (nicely) that you don't want to be involved with her sexually or romantically. Tell her you want to be there for the baby throughout it's life, but you can't continue to make mistakes with someone you don't love. Then (if it is your baby) the two of you need to legally (as in getting a lawyer, having legal documents etc.) decide how you will split custody and how much you will pay in child support. There is no reason that the two of you can't be friends and work together to raise the baby as long as you stay civil. Good luck! If you need any more advice, let me know! Hope that helps!

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  Posted by springtime Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:41am PST

  Follow Justin's cowgirl's advice.

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  Posted by Gigi Sun Jan 18, 2009 2:21pm PST

  Get a DNA test done when the baby's born. Stick around during the pregnancy but like cowgirl said, just break up with her. I may sound cynical but, are you sure that she's even pregnant? She could be saying that just for you two to have unprotected sex with you and end up pregnant (I've known a few women who've done that). I recently had a pregnancy scare that made me realize that, when people decide to have sex, there's a chance that you'll be stuck with them for life through an unwanted pregnancy.

  I wish you the best of luck

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  Posted by Chris Sun Jan 18, 2009 2:48pm PST

  thanks to everyone for there advice. C I'm a clown to but one thing I hate is ignorant f--- s like the first person MD. U seriously have a problem loser. yes we talked about getting a paternity test she said she respects that. Plus yes she is preg she is showing plus I went with her to the doctors.

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