Ladies, would you date a former stripper?

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  Posted by Ahleah G Wed Aug 12, 2009 10:45am PDT

  I have dated a stripper in the past and don't have a problem with it. It doesn't define a person, and often is just another way to support themselves (with much better pay than working minumum wage). Granted it depends on the person too. I don't think that I would be comfortable if I thought they did more than just stripping (ie extras in the champagne room). I can also see how it would be more difficult if it was a current job because of jealousy

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  Posted by hobbit Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:27am PDT

  Why would anybody have a problem with it. The way I see it, at least he was paid to take his clothes off and probably had mandatory health tests. This is compared to the guys you date who were once stupid drunk frat boys who took their clothes off for free and couldn't remember who they slept with. So yeah I'd date the stripper. Actually knowing the money they make I wouldn't mind stripping myself if I was more comfortable with my body. It's not like the movies where every stripper goes to some dude's backseat or hands out special favors. You get to choose.

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  Posted by RV Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:32am PDT

  I dated an amazing girl ("Dot") in college who stripped. Her little sister (wild child!!!) was already stripping while Dot was a nursing student (at a very good school). Dot was country girl beautiful, but always dressed in comfortable, non-revealing clothes, no need or want of makeup, and focused on school. I first met Dot when she was looking for a tutor. In her 3rd year, Dot's financial aid was slashed and she was faced with having to drop out with her on-campus and retail jobs not enough. Anyway, her little sister took her to the gentleman's club she worked at to buy her a few drinks to get Dot's mind off it one night. Well, it happened to be amateur night, and after a few drinks, Dot's little sister somehow convinced her to get on stage and go for it. Even though she couldn't dance, she walked out that night with a $106 made in minutes. That was it, Dot soon began to strip regularly and continue school. It was quite the joke because I soon began meeting her at the club to tutor her (she worked the noon to 6pm crowd so she could do morning classes), but I wouldn’t watch her onstage. After a few months of tutoring, we found we were really compatible and dated for 2.5 years, with her stripping during that time. I knew there was so much more to Dot than her dancing with her top off, and it didn’t affect our relationship. Dot's personality never changed, though she did learn to dance, and graduated with honors! Sadly, I had a great opportunity for graduate school that forced me to move away, and the long distance didn't work for us. We did keep in touch through the years, however, and Dot eventually earned her doctorate and recently became head of her department in a pretty well-known metro hospital.

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  Posted by RitaF Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:40am PDT

  I just find male strippers kind of creepy. I don't know why some people are turned on by it. But no, I don't think I'd have a problem dating a FORMER stripper...I'd probably just make fun of him for it ;)

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  Posted by None Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:43am PDT

  Hmm IDK, some people say strippers are just regular people who are doing it because of some "financial woes" but then where is the line drawn? Would you date someone who prostituted themselves for their "kids or financial woes?" Honestly to me, it's like you can get a real job, for those who do it only purely for a dilemma and once it is resolved they quit, great, but the money takes over, then there are some extras done for more and it continues into the other dark & dangerous side of that world. But I like "RV" story.

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  Posted by Tim Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:44am PDT

  "Would you feel weird dating someone who used to take their clothes off for cash? Would you feel better about their stripping career if it was far in the past?"

  Would you ask that question if the genders were reversed? I suggest it would be too politically incorrect to ask that question to men about female strippers.

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  Posted by Tim Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:47am PDT

  And again, Rita applies a "creepy" standard to men that would never apply to women. Ever notice that essentially all of the things women find "creepy" in men are perfectly acceptable when the genders are reversed. I'll say one thing for you women, you do a hell of a job keeping us men in a constricted little masculinity box -- that's where you want us.

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  Posted by Toby Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:50am PDT

  it was just the past .... let it go .. now he is a hollywood superstar... forget the past n go on

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  Posted by Mali Malz Wed Aug 12, 2009 12:02pm PDT

  DAMN, I WISH I COULD HAVE CAUGHT TATUM DURING ONE OF THOSE SHOWS!! HES SO SEXY! ID SLIP DOLLAR BILLS INTO HIS THONG ANY DAYYYY!!! LOL.. AND NO I DONT THINK IT WOULD BE THAT BIG OF A DEAL IF MY MAN WAS AN EXSTRIPPER... KINDA MAKES THINGS A BIT INTERESTING, HOW MANY GIRLS OUT THERE HAVE A MAN AT HOME THAT GIVES THEM LAPDANCES!!! THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY AWESOME AND SUCH A TURN ON!

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  Posted by SugarPlumFairy Wed Aug 12, 2009 12:35pm PDT

  Tim M, you don't make much of an argument. Asking men if they'd date a former stripper isn't politically incorrect at all. I think it would be perfectly acceptable to ask a man if he'd date a former stripper. And I'm sure most of the men would have answers similar to the ones posted here! Some would mind it, some wouldn't.

  Perhaps Rita finds male strippers "creepy" because men typically are not prized for their physical beauty. Therefore, the few men that do have the looks and desire to strip are certainly not common, and they are, just based on numbers, out of the norm and therefore possibly a little creepy. It all comes down to gender roles and differences. Women are the more attractive sex, it is more acceptable (for better or worse) for a woman to show off her body than a man.

  I have found that if men listen to the female perspective every once in a while and try to understand it, they will see that women are not manipulative beings trying to keep men in a "constricted little masculinity box." Men and women simply see issues from very different perspectives. Quite frankly, I have to laugh when I hear men whine about being held hostage by women's "games." Maybe they're just not smart enough to understand what's really going on!

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