I know that many of you are working moms outside of the home. Some of you are single. My hats are off to you. I would love to hear about how you balance it all without meds, church, family support and occasionally thinking that turning in your mommy hat in exchange for a two week cruise alone with just vodka and Anne Tyler novels is a pretty viable option.
My main point (among bracing for the inevitable, "You should never have had children weird writing lady" comments) is this: My dear, darling, handsome husband was ready for a little fun last night. I, however, was not.
Anybody who reads my columns knows that I'm a huge proponent of keeping the sex flames lit. I always say that even tired mamas should work on keeping their libido up because it's so good for the marriage.
But last night... oh, last night. To put it bluntly, I was already asleep, and being stirred from slumber by a boner near the curve of my back wasn't exactly my idea of a blissful awakening.
"Honey, I am not in the mood tonight. I'm just not," I said.
Rex: "You haven't been in the mood for a week." He rolled over. It was dark, but I'm pretty sure he wasn't smiling.
Me: "Rex, you've haven't been able to walk due to a near fractured foot. YOU weren't in the mood all week. Just because seven days later you're suddenly ready to Marvin-Gaye-me does not mean that I'm ready to get it on."
Rex: "Let's just let it go."
So we did.
And I slept awful. Why?
1. I felt guilty.
2. I really do need to connect with Rex.
3. I feel a bit deflated, because this week I'm having a hard time balancing being a mom, a worker, a sex godess, cook and a taxi driver/maid.
I suppose, as Tricia Yearwood sings in one of my favorite songs of hers, "Some days are better than others."
And now, let the "You are a horrible wife and mother" comments fly.
PS: I don't have a mood disorder. But I do sometimes have a mommy/wife/writer disorder. Too bad there's not a pill for that one!
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