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Friday, November 20, 2009

Little White Lie or Unforgivable Fib: Lying To Your Guy About Prices

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Be honest: Have you ever misled your guy about what you purchased after a day of shopping? I'll admit that I do it when necessary.

I love to shop, and while I haven't been shopping as often as I used to, I still splurge on less frivolous items that I'll wear often, like a pair of jeans or a coat. When I walk through the door after every shopping trip, Drew asks me what I spent. I usually tell him the truth because I'm good at hunting for bargains, but sometimes I have to embellish my purchases or alter the prices so he won't get annoyed. For example, last week I bought a pair of boots I had been lusting after for weeks. I was shopping around for the best price, and I couldn't find them for less than $300, so I sucked it up and bought them, knowing I'd wear them for years. Instead of telling Drew I only bought boots, I said I got two pairs of shoes—it sounded a little better that way. I know he's completely caught on to my tricks, but I do it whenever I feel a little guilty about spending too much on one item.

I was talking to my girlfriend about this last night, and she told me she does this all the time, but her husband gets annoyed with her when he finds out that she lied. He said it's wrong to be dishonest about their finances. She still does it all the time—she said she just needs to be a little sneaky about it!

Have you ever misled your guy about what you bought on a recent shopping trip? What white lie did you tell, and do you think he'd get mad if he found out?

P.S. Who do you lie to the most, have you ever told a big fib, and check out these 10 ways to tell if he's lying!

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  • alaskamommy's Avatar
    Posted by alaskamommy Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:54am PST

    No, I don't have to. I'm not a frivolous spender. Went to Wal-Mart the other day and the only thing I bought myself was a leaf salt and pepper shaker that was on sale for a dollar! My husband is more likely to be the spender and he doesn't intentionally mislead me on prices, but often if something was $15.99, he'll say it was $15 and leave off the 99 cents. That used to bug me, but now I know to add the extra dollar and then I'll know what it really cost.

    I do all the bill paying at our house, though, so maybe that makes the difference. I'm the one that has to make sure the money is there to pay the bills.

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  • ERICA's Avatar
    Posted by ERICA Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:08am PST

    If its a joint account or his that your spending the money on, then you should be honest. If its your own money, then quite frankly its none of his business how much or what you spend your money on.

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  • Bubbsdaddy's Avatar
    Posted by Bubbsdaddy Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:09am PST

    Sorry, it's lying. If you have to lie about what you spend then there's a problem. Plus, if he knows you lie about it, most likely he's wondering what else you're lying about. If you're knowingly lying about this, then don't start wondering why he doesn't trust you. Turn the tables... if you knew your husband was lying about what he spent, would you trust him on everything else, or would you be suspicious? I know this is a man-bashing site sometimes, but don't play the double standard on this one...

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  • Coug Girl's Avatar
    Posted by Coug Girl Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:10am PST

    Two words - separate accounts. It makes life easier. But I wouldn't lie, because why, and also my husband spends more than me on things.

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  • leenboost's Avatar
    Posted by leenboost Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:13am PST

    If my boyfriend and I ever live together/get married I don't think he will mind be spending on myself too much. I wouldn't lie about the prices, yet again, I consider myself a smart shopper and I don't buy something until I find it on the lowest price possible. If you lie about it once or twice, it's OK I assume, as long as you don't take advantage of those lies and use them in other situations/financial things. My friend is actually going to counseling because she has a shopping addiction. She basically gets depressed and finds that shopping online makes her feel better, only for a few hours though. She has become compulsive and already used up 2 of her fiance's credit cards. I think when you're in that situation, you need to stop.

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:16am PST

    Given the dire economic times, females lying about spending is the new relationship infidelity. This is flat out cheating. Serious cases of lying and cheating on economics should be grounds for divorce. Women lying and reckless spending inside relationships with men has to end.

    If she feels entitled to things, feels lying about money is no big deal, then she's just an inch away from sleeping with other men and saying it's not a problem, she's entitled to that also.

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  • Katie B's Avatar
    Posted by Katie B Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:17am PST

    Nah... neither of us have to lie... because we usually stay within budget (or not far out of)... If I want to go clothes shopping then we allot so much for me to go clothes shopping and I try to spend within that... but if I go a little bit over then it's really no big deal (as long as a little is 10 or 20 dollars) but if I go majorly over budget (or think I will) then I tell him (he does the finances, he's just better at it than I am) and we figure something out... besides, like alaskamommy, my husband is the big spender...

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:22am PST

    If you're married, seperate accounts don't matter. Joint accounts dont matter. It's both spouses money.

    By claiming it DOES make a difference sends the message : What's mine is mine, what's his is mine.

    Using seperate account logic means that, iIf you get divorced, then you can't make any claims on any of the funds in his accounts. But of course, you can. So this seperate account logic is female B.S.!!!!!

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  • ERICA's Avatar
    Posted by ERICA Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:36am PST

    Umm... separate accounts do matter. Especially if there is a prenup involved. My husband and I keep all of our money separate and it works. We NEVER fight about money. This is the number one fight of most couples especially in this economy.

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Mon Nov 9, 2009 11:40am PST

    Likewise, I'll talk to my guy friends about kissing women, than our wives, tonight. Hopefully they'll tell me they do this all the time, I'm sure our wives will get annoyed with us when they find out and we lie about it. I'm sure the wives will still say it's cheating and dishomest to just kiss, even though it's not like we are ever sleeping with them or having intercourse with them. They guys will agree, we'll still do it all the time, we just need to be a little sneaky about it!

    There. How does it feel the other way around? Can you self absorbed, selfish female hypocrites empathize yet????

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