Losing Everything

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  Posted by pattakins Sat Oct 31, 2009 4:29pm PDT

  I just read what u wrote. I want 2 let you know that what u said is just about everything I wish I could say. I don't sleep either; when I do it's just nightmares. I don't ever feel hungry. But, I make myself eat because I take meds. I fool myself, more than I know. when I do wake-up,(usually @3:30a.m.), i,m wide awake. I don't even sleep in my bed anymore; way 2 lonely. At least when i'm on my couch, I can feel somewhat like i'm all there. I just want someone 2 really give a @@@@, about ME; and I wish three things--that my arm,my man,family; were with me. I wish I could give u a hug, and cry with u and let u know that Iam HERE. rite now for YOU. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I am glad you wrote this message today. It means you are HUMAN; with real feelings, and emotions. PLEASE, don't shut down. Remember if you jump, I jump. Please, keep writing. if what you shared helped me, I know there are others out there who can also share alittle with 2. I don't know you, but iwant you 2 know I LOVE YOU.

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  Posted by melody Sat Oct 31, 2009 5:09pm PDT

  What can I say after reading your tragic story that will comfort you and make you feel better? Probably nothing. And do you know why? Because everyone goes through this. We all lose things or people or body parts we loved and there are no answers as to why. I'm not the type of person to blow sunshine up your ass and tell you just to continue feeling, and breathing, and eating, and one day you'll snap out of it and be okay. I know better. I'm going through something similar myself. I just lost my apartment (eviction), my boyfriend (we broke up on my birthday) and my job (yet another lay off. So I feel where you are coming from when you say you just want to be left alone. Me too. But when are we truly alone? As of tomorrow I will be surrounded by family members that are old, set in their ways, and closed-minded. Not exactly what a person starting over needs. But I will do the best I can to get back out there and make a new life for myself. When you lose everything you only have everything else to gain. It's a do-over. A clean slate. Take as much time as you need to heal, be angry, hate everyone, cry uncontrollably, eat forbidden foods, and then decide for yourself how you want your life to play out. You must surround yourself with positive people you can emulate until you feel positive yourself. Trust me, I don't know why we're all here on this earth. I've searched for the truth for a lot of years now. But I do know that friendship and love rank high on the list of pleasurable things to have in your life, and I assume our purpose is to grow from our experiences, learn from each other, and help as much as we can. Hang in there and don't be afraid to feel your true emotions, however ugly they seem. They will lead you to the other side. Good luck to you. I hope I have helped you gain even a little insight. Thank you for your story.

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  Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Sat Oct 31, 2009 6:11pm PDT

  Girl Leave all that lonely and sadness at the front door,YES it gets hard sometimes and it does get lonely and you may want to cry,you better suck that up its all part of the live and learn process.i my self have felt the same way everyone gets hurt no one is excluded from that, girl depression is not the way, you better take a good look in the mirrior and realize what you want and when the next guy comes your way dont lower your standards or expectations for n e one . We as women have so much power but we let our emontions get in the way of our better JUDGEMENT so that we dont see the garbadge that lies with us someimes, sweetie dont let that past drag into your future god has something better for you. Make sur that the next one is worthy of you and if he is not let his ass go cause that means he wasn't s--- in the first plce hold your head up high an dkeep a movin gat your swagg on!!!!!! bye

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  Posted by Jennie Sat Oct 31, 2009 7:42pm PDT

  These people are right every one goes through it, I was there 6 months ago. Life goes on and you have to find things that make you happy. Sitting there feeling sorry for your self wont make it better. Find something to do, a new hobby, an old hobby. Do you really need a guy to be happy? Be happy with you and who you are. It's hard , but if you don't make the best out of your situation then life will be miserable.

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  Posted by Burmaa Sun Nov 1, 2009 12:41am PDT

  I have just broke up with my boyfriend. Actually it's almost been a month. I really don't know what to say. I didn't love him but it's so hard to get over. I guess once you get used to be together it's hard to just get over even you didn't love him. I guess those fun times we spent and all that attention I used t o get emotionally, mentally and physically. I guess I miss it.

  I want to say that don't trust guys 100% or don't love someone more that yourself. You will end up with feeling like no one!!! my suggestion will be find a guy who is mature and knows what he wants. If he wants you and if you feel the same. why not? But still remember!!!!

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