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Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Love and all its Sparkle!
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It has been said before that you must first
learn to love yourself before you can ever completely love another
person. Since there is no getting away from
ourselves, we must learn to accept ourselves as we
are. If there are things that YOU want to change
then that is up to you to make the difference. I
do not think that we should ever have to change who we are for
anybody else. It will only be a successful
transformation if we are doing it for the right
reasons. I have accepted myself for who I
am. I do not love my body, but my heart, mind
and soul I am content with. I know I have a lot
of love to offer and give to someone without cheapening myself in
any way.
Depression is a terrible
disease. It can be from a medical imbalance or
from some type of tragedy that has struck your
life. I have had my own falling out with
depression and now I have learned to think
differently. I try to find positive in
situations and try not to be negative. I hold on
to hope and faith like they are going out of style and I love with
all my heart. If things do not work out with my
boyfriend I will be devastated. I will want to
give up on love and accept my fate as a single
mother. This does not mean I am giving up on
life. My son always has a way to make me smile
when I am sad. His unconditional love for me is
overwhelming at times but very much appreciated and
adored. Anyone who thinks life is not worth
living needs to have children first. My son has
taught me a lot of things. The way he sees the
world is so naïve and innocent but it is
refreshing. I am not saying having kids is the
only way a person can appreciate life but they do change your
perspective on a lot of different things. There
is always a silver lining to a cloud. There is
always 2 sides to every story. There is always
gold at the end of the rainbow and through those spooky woods there
is an Emerald City to find. No matter what we
face in our everyday lives I believe that every has the strength
and drive to get through it. Some people need
help with finding that strength and drive, while with others it
comes more naturally. This does not mean you are
a bad person. Everyone has to find their own way
of dealing with life. My boyfriend is in that
boat now. We are putting a hold so to speak on
our relationship so he can fix things in his life before he brings
my son and me into it 24/7. In the mean time, I
am doing the same thing. Figuring out some
things that have gone wrong in my life and trying to get ahead of
them. I may even go back and finish the year I
have left for my bachelors degree in Business
Administration. We both have some things we want
to accomplish to make the transition easier on both of us in the
long run. It is hard to say what will
happen. I do know I love him, miss him, adore
him and never want to lose him. However a girl
can only wait so long. I cannot say how long or
short it will be because it depends on many
factors. I can say I am not by any means eager
to start dating anyone else.
To my love that feels lost……..I will always have a light on for
you. Anytime you need me I will be there for you
because I love you so and want you to be happy.
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Posted by vixenvena Fri Nov 20, 2009 10:15am PST
Say what? Why are you typing this drivel into a blog instead of truly following your feelings? If you loved your boyfriend, you'd likely be there for him to help him through what he needs or at least be there and be supportive. Quite obviously your relationship has ended. Think about this: do you want your ex finding this drivel about him on the net? He's either going to think you're stuck on him or he's going to be pissed off by you contemplating screwing other people. Either way, I think your best move is to keep these feelings to yourself.
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Posted by LindaH Fri Nov 20, 2009 10:48am PST
FoxyAngel26,
This is a good post from you.On the subject of depression, I agree with you.
I'm glad you could share it with me...
There is no need to worry, you two will make this work.
I pray things work out for you and your man.
Thank you honey and have a wonderful day.
Much love...Linda Hales.
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Posted by SurferRob Fri Nov 20, 2009 11:06am PST
Foxy...long time and good to see you're still roaming around here.
I've just let someone go recently and the situation sounds similar - so feelin you. No matter what happens you've got your son and he's a constant for you that will help.
The unknown of this type of situation is the worst...so try and keep yourself occupied and happy. Finishing up your degree is an outstanding idea.
Whenever you feel a bit down...remember - it will get better. May not seem like it now, but it will. You'll smile again and you'll love again...in due time.
Take care of yourself.
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Posted by FoxyAngel26 Fri Nov 20, 2009 11:46am PST
Vixenvena- I said nothing about wanting to screw someone else. I am going to support him through this but I am doing it on his terms. Whatever he needs from me or doesn't I am going to respect that. He wants time to focus on what he needs to do so I am giving that to him. I am stuck on him but because I want to be. I love him. And we met because of this blog thank you very much and I know he reads my blog. I do not think I said anything offensive to him in any matter. I respect his decision with what he wants to do and will support him any way I can.
Thanks SurferRob, long time no talk!
Thanks Linda for your kind words and prayers. I appreciate it!!!
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Posted by anh Fri Nov 20, 2009 4:34pm PST
love is a two-way street; you shouldn't be in a relationship unless what you love about yourself is also loved by the other person. this isn't about indulging superficial whims just because the other person is unwilling to respect the person they are in the relationship with.
why love anyone who does what he does out of a lack of respect? if you're not doing that as well, it's an unbalanced relationship, not a "loving" relationship. There have to be SOME standards for being in a relationship!
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Posted by SILENT KNIGHT Fri Nov 20, 2009 8:43pm PST
Change is constant. The shortest distance between two objects is a straight line. Direct questions get direct answers. Time is just as precious as love is. You appear to have alot of heart although you may be loosing your mind. Love doesn't make you do crazy things because GOD is Love and he wants you to enjoy your life. Take your precious time, but move forward instead of entertaining ghosts from your past. As hard as times get Love will always persevere.
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Posted by Dissident Mon Nov 30, 2009 8:01am PST
You have got to be the biggest hypocrite I've come across in a good many years. Takes all kinds I guess.
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