Love Life is sooo complicated.... how can it be simplified without being removed?

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  Posted by sharon Sun Oct 25, 2009 1:10am PDT

  I think you should listen to your gut instinct...BEFORE rationalizing anything. Its your gut that knows deep down the dynamics of your relationship and the possibilities you both have or dont have at this time. I haven't listened to mine in my previous 2 relationships. I think I've caught on now and will see red flags when they appear, instead of ignoring things because i want something. Just listen to your gut..it'll be the end result and you can save yourself early or jump in with both feet, communicate a little about it and hopefully have a blast together! Good luck:)

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  Posted by Josephneil Sun Oct 25, 2009 1:41am PDT

  Try not to push anything instead let the time tell where the two of you are heading. Just enjoy what you have.

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  Posted by Jett Sun Oct 25, 2009 2:05am PDT

  follow your heart;)

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  Posted by Derrick Sun Oct 25, 2009 4:16am PDT

  hey girl.....why fight it...we all have needs and if he makes it easier to deal with the crap than go for it....DVB out...honest

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  Posted by Sarah Sun Oct 25, 2009 5:40am PDT

  Girl, i understand what you're going through. what i can say is, listen to your inner voice but dont push him. take it as it cums and please don't rush things because that might hurt you deeply. good luck.

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  Posted by Sarah Sun Oct 25, 2009 5:41am PDT

  Girl, i understand what you're going through. what i can say is, listen to your inner voice but dont push him. take it as it cums and please don't rush things because that might hurt you deeply. good luck.

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  Posted by klb Sun Oct 25, 2009 6:35am PDT

  I am in the same situation. Only he was the first one to tell me that he had wanted to kiss me for a very long time. I've known him for over 6 years. benafriend for over 3 years now. My heart wants more yet he tells me he's confused and needs time. So I'm just waiting to see what happens. Perhaps I'm being foolish, but he & I are very close & we're good for each other! Best wishes to you.

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  Posted by SRM Sun Oct 25, 2009 7:39am PDT

  Have a question.... Does he know about the other guy you met after a short break with him?...if the answer is yes.... it may backfire on you, he is just waiting for perfect time,one more thing, I don't believe in going backward,if you left him for some issue(s),it will still be there,we men has desease called forgive but not forget morever, if he was the one doing it to you, what name would you name him???? it is just an opinion

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  Posted by another hockey fan Sun Oct 25, 2009 7:47am PDT

  It's never possible to keep up with the benefriends as long as one person wants more than the other. Since you strongly feel you will start to fall for him again if you do that, make it clear to him that there will not be anymore sex, explain to him why and don't put yourself in a situation where you know you might cave in to any advances. I think it's great he's being so sweet and caring, but it may be because he's trying to play the "sex" card. He knows he can't just "assume" you are ready to go back to the benefriends thing, so he may be buttering you up. The only way you can be sure is tell him you can't go back to the benefriends as you want more and understand if he's not ready or doesn't, but if he can't respect that, or doesn't want to just hang out with you without the sex, then I think you have your answer.

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  Posted by Max Sun Oct 25, 2009 1:03pm PDT

  i love sex i wish i could have sex every day but there is not one women out there that dont wanna have sex or has sex everytday!!

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