So we have heard of it before. People who have been married for 20,
30, 40 or even 50 years or more and we all say
"awwwwwww!", But then we all find out the horrible, scary
truth..they haven't been happy for the longest. So why stay if
you aren't happy. I have a friend who mother and dad had been
together for 40 years and a good 30 of those years they didn't
want to be with each other. They had kids with in these 40 years(
my friend is the youngest, 24). So not only did they stay together,
they had kids. So I don't get it myself.
Right now, I can admit that my marriage is not the best right now.
My husband and I fight. He's cheated and I've grown cold.
But I do want to TRY to mend it. Things are rocky and I am trying.
But I have thought about calling it quits while we are still young
and the marriage is sort of" new". But then, I start to
think about my mom who was married and divorced twice. She did try
with my dad but he cheated and had an outside baby. Then she REALLY
tried with my stepdad..they got married when I was 5 and they
divorced when I was 19. So yea, she put up with the cheating and
the emotionally/verbal abuse until she said no more and kicked him
out. I don't want to feel stuck, but then, I don't want to
walk out and there was a very good possible chance it will get
better. Now, its okay. No fights for the past 2 weeks. We talk more
and we even laugh together. It sounds good but I do have the
thought in the back of my mind" How long is it going to
last?" Only time will tell. I am not the type to quit so
easily, but I am smart enough to call it quits when it needs to be.
So far, I see a chance of martial bliss.
Feel free to comment.
Loveless marriage? Why do people stay in them when they aren't happy.
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Posted by Fri Jan 30, 2009 4:01pm PST
Report AbuseTrust your GUT feelings! Inner voice never leads you wrong. Been there, done that!!
Cheaters are simply who they are. I left with 4 children & 2 weeks of clothes wear.
I DO NOT regret leaving over 20 yrs ago, only the beauty i missed, by not making myself & The Creator
FIRST.
Go for the gusto!!! We only have one life to give. Enjoy the journey!!!!! LOL
4Real !
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Posted by Wed Feb 4, 2009 11:24am PST
Report AbuseCause people wanna be loyal and "not do someone wrong" or try to "stick it out" or something I think.
And about the abortion blog, it is cool you have a difference of opinion baby! I am not mad cause you think different, it's just a blog! lol
peace
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Posted by Tue Nov 10, 2009 1:00pm PST
Report AbusePeople stay in loveless marriages after so many years, 40 even, because they keep saying the same thing you said, "We have had two weeks of bliss".....and then it happens again, anger, verbal abuse, lack of caring, cruelty and you say to yourself "I'll get through it, we have had good times before." And so you stay and two weeks later, he's mad at you again for something you did or din't do or said in the wrong tone of voice and here you go again. And one day you look back and you realize you have been in this relationship over 40 years, you are 60 years old, you have financial security and you ask yourself is there anything better out there????probably not and the last thing you want is another man so you stay and you become with drawn from each other and your relationship doesn't get any better and you have feelings of resentment on both sides and then you just learn to live with it. Do what you want and try to be polite. And then you tell yourself that if there is another life after this one perhaps you have paid your dues and someone will love you.
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