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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Make-Up Sex - It's Red Hot

I was tired of being angry. It was too much trouble to grumble at every glance. And yet, I couldn't just accept it the way it was. It was as if a wasteland had appeared where once a happy oasis of love existed. I couldn't take it any longer. And since I couldn't leave it, nor could I find a new one, I accepted it as it was. But with a new shade of color.

Yep, my old tired face got a new lipstick - Smoking red.

I totally overpaid for the experiene of walking up to a Laura Mercier counter at Nordstrom and dropping almost $30.00 on a shade of matte the color of my highschool prom roses. But I don't regret a thing. This, coming from a self-acclaimed thrift store/resale selling/99 Cent Store impulse buying junkie is something indeed!

I feel liberated. I feel sassy. I feel like the old Andrea is coming out to play. (Except not in those stilettos. I'm 6'1 as it is. I'd be GINORMOUS.)

No more cracked lips from Rite Aid dollar lip liners! And wow, my skin is softer, too! Not because of the lipstick, but because I bought some spf 30 hydrating foundation to go with it. (And no, I totally didn't get paid to say any of this. I'm was sucked into the retail vortex of reclaiming my youth just like the rest of you!)

At 39, I'm no longer a candidate for the haute Mac goth look, but I'm not ready for the Estee Lauder sweater set crowd either. My new shade of red shows that.

And, because I feel so, dare I say it, "sexy", I started curling my hair again. I'm powdering AND I'm wearing... gasp... mascara.

If I'm going to go 50's housewife, I'm going to do it in style! I have had meals on the table for the past few days right at 6. I've had perfume. I've even forgotten my panties on a few occasions for a post-kid romp.

Which is exactly why my husband has chosen this week, of all weeks, to work every night until 10pm.

Oh, well. I did it for me. I don't need his validation!

(Oh who am I kidding... it would have been fun to hear him ooh and awww. But its his loss. Just like it'll be his loss tomorrow when I come home too tired from a day of cherry picking at the farm to roll in the hay upstairs with him. Take the "cherry picking" analogy any way you'd like it, but I'm literally picking cherries with the kids. Lucky you - you'll get to hear all about it on Friday. And lucky Rex, I'll probably change my mind if he gets home at a decent hour.)

How about you ladies out there? Are you happy with your "look" or is it affecting your sex life?

Happy Hump Day!

* Photo from All Posters.com. I just adore that site and the style of those poster girls. They were just so spunky and curvy. I swear I'll be that old grandma with the red shoes and bright lipstick - just to stay plucky and keep Rex on his toes (or off them... that works, too!)


Posted by Andrea Frazer

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:19am PDT

    Oh please, do the crotchless leggings, sexiness is forever, if you feel it. I'm feeling this marriage going down the drain....LOL! IDK some guy told me he wouldn't want to have a sexy wife because then you gotta keep up with her? LOL! Weird eh.

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  • Jenn eye's Avatar
    Posted by Jenn eye Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:12am PDT

    I do feel that way also. Stuck in a rut and never feeling the spark anymore with the husband. I do not like the way I look so I am working out and trying to change that part so I maybe feel better and am able to buy clothes I would like to and wear make-up that works for me and him. We have been married for 14 years and it feels like we exist to raise our kids and then what when they are all grown and gone. SOOOOOO I for sure need to find that other shade of lip stick and get the ball rolling some how. LOL

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  • Crystal's Avatar
    Posted by Crystal Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:51am PDT

    just make shour you pick the right one or all u will be doing is trying to make him love u all over agen and that is harder then when you frist meet them man or women. i have been in a 10 yrs relashonship and it is hard and i am relly confused

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  • Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping's Avatar
    Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:46pm PDT

    I've been in a rut before, and I have to say, it wasn't about my husband. He hasn't changed. Much of it has to do with me and how I've changed. I somehow had enough foresight to know that switching partners isn't what I needed to fix it. I needed to get some other kind of excitement back. Some writing work, some working out, some time reading and being more social - that did it for me. And yeah, I'm always a work in progress. That's for sure. How about all of you?

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  • Cheyenne's Avatar
    Posted by Cheyenne Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:59pm PDT

    obviously im not married but me and my bf have been planning it. i kno u girls can probly remember how frisky u felt in high school and ofcourse i kno how it feels. (seeming as im still in it.) anyways, i cant see myself losing that connection or the passion that we have now. it just doesnt seem like something that could happen 2 us but i kno we have 2 grow up and get older sooner or later. :( but i love him with all my heart and i hope 2 be with him forever!!! i love u babii!!! ;)

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  • Shauntya's Avatar
    Posted by Shauntya Thu Jun 25, 2009 6:32pm PDT

    Make up sex is great, but make sure if the fight is serious, don't let great sex dull your vision!

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  • Eddieslilangel's Avatar
    Posted by Eddieslilangel Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:41pm PDT

    goin 50s house wife sounds so fun!!!

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  • Rebecca G's Avatar
    Posted by Rebecca G Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:02am PDT

    I quit doing my hair and makeup years ago before the kids started coming. Now I am about 50 lbs overweight and yes, it has effected my self esteem which has effected my sex life. Glad to hear you got your mojo back.

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  • instrumentjamlord's Avatar
    Posted by instrumentjamlord Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:43pm PDT

    You do make a good point, that if you aren't feeling sexy yourself, it doesn't much matter how sexy your partner thinks you are. That path is a downward spiral.

    That said, it does help if you actually listen to your partner's appreciation and let it in, especially on those days where you aren't generating it for yourself.

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  • Anand's Avatar
    Posted by Anand Mon Jun 29, 2009 12:56am PDT

    I've been in a rut before, and I have to say, it wasn't about my husband. He hasn't changed. Much of it has to do with me and how I've changed. I somehow had enough foresight to know that switching partners isn't what I needed to fix it. I needed to get some other kind of excitement back. Some writing work, some working out, some time reading and being more social - that did it for me. And yeah, I'm always a work in progress. That's for sure. How about all of you?

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