Men and Strip Clubs

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  Posted by Timothy B Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:12pm PDT

  If he's married then it's bad because he is acting on his lust publicly, thereby making a statement to everyone and anyone about it. If he's not married then obviously neither partner thinks the relationship is important enough to commit. If you're not married, it's not serious. That's what I think.

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  Posted by gloria Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:17pm PDT

  I'm from the old(er) school, but I was dating this younger guy that loved to go to the strip joints.. When we were dating, he stopped going, I know, I know, anyway he suggested we both go on a Saturday night, which the club called couple's night.. I kept putting it off, and we are no longer dating, But to answer your question, no I do not think it is a bad thing for them to go, its entertainment with a sexual twist to it.. What's the harm???

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  Posted by Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:17pm PDT

  NOPE!

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  Posted by RichardM Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:25pm PDT

  As a married man, i have been in a few strip cluns. The question a man needs to ask himself is "Why am I here?"

  If he goes by himself, that is a sign of trouble. If he goes every driday by himself, that's a sign of big trouble.

  But in my case I have only gone twice since being married. One, when it was a bachelor party, and it was more about embarassing the groom than about leering at naked ladies.

  The second time was when one of the wife's friends said she had never been to one and was curious. We all went as a group (wife included) and had a good time laughing at her friends reaction to the lace. We even bought her a lap dance to see the look on her face.

  While I wouldn't say going to strip clubs is cheating, a man who makes it a habit has some unresolved issues and perhaps needs to rethink his relationship.

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  Posted by Lynda Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:40pm PDT

  Now, remember, men are visual creatures and women are more creatures of emotions. I totally believe in going with your man to these types of clubs and them going for special occasions as well. But that is all I will tolerate...if he wants a stripper in front of him, then be that stripper at home for him. Men have fantasies that are worth delving into for both of you to draw satisfaction from. I once dressed up as a naughty, school girl and that was almost three years ago...guess what? He still brings it up from time to time to this day and tells me how hot that was. Just go with it, is what I think. As long as it isn't hurting you, harming you or traumatizing you, then have fun with it! Am I right?

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  Posted by BLU Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:46pm PDT

  I think if a man is married going alone it is a problem because he has the same thing at home why not go there for FREE!!!

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  Posted by mild-one Tue Jul 22, 2008 1:28pm PDT

  It's nothing wrong with any man going to a strip club. It is a form of entertainment. It is wrong when a married man or a man who is in a committed relationship goes to a brothel. At a strip club, it is only teasing without the real possibility of engaging in any sexual activities. A woman who is secure with herself would not see the harm in her boyfriend, fiance, or husband going to a strip club.

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  Posted by Ina Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:50pm PDT

  Well, I understand that man and women are different, but I have a problem with my husband going to strip club...

  Tell you why...

  I’ve gone to the strip clubs for girls, and i have to tell you that this is more entertainment than anything else. Women have a great time at those places, but from what i experienced, it is just a SHOW for them. For man - it is different. I think any man who are watching a lady talking off clothes for him, would have a sex with girl, if he could without even thinking twice. That is how woman's naked body is powerful for them. It is plain old animal instinct.

  Also, I for example knowing that my husband just viewed a girl with a nice body will have a problem to undress in front of him. I feel ugly and very upset.

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  Posted by salesgirl Sun Oct 19, 2008 8:05pm PDT

  I am currently doing some research for a book I'm writing on this very subject and would love any honest feedback men have to offer out there. Please know your anonymity is held in the strictest confidence. email me at kristi_inarizona@yahoo.com.

  Questions I have are:

  Are men in committed or married relationships content or happy with who they have or do they need or desire porn/stripclubs/etc. to feed their sexual appetites?

  Do they regularly fantasize about sex with other women when they're having sex with their own?

  Do they fantasize about sex with a women when they're out with a group of guys who are "chick watching"?

  Of those that are in committed relationships--how many actually have super HOT chicks at home?

  Do we as a society just accept that men are men and that they were created to have sex with multiple partners or do we think it's a cop out and men are getting away with ogling and fantasizing about women when they should be content with who they have at home?

  For the record, I'm an average woman in love with an amazing man. We've been to strip clubs together and we've had a wonderful time. I would be upset if he were to go alone or with his guy friends (which he doesn't), even if some feel it's a form of entertainment. I wouldn't like it and he knows that, so he doesn't do it.

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