Men going to bars alone while you are at work or out of town...

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  Posted by another hockey fan Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:57pm PDT

  Since you said this is not the first time he's gone to a bar like this, I'm not sure after you told him the first time it was disrespectful because of the type of clientele and reputation these bars have, why he would go back. Anyhow, I don't know how long you two have been married, how you all get along on a regular basis, or what your current status is (ie are there other issues than this going on or have gone on in the past), to make it out to be a "mid-life" crisis on his part, but the bottom line is a man who appreciates and respects his wife would not be doing this.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:03pm PDT

  I wouldnt like it either. Is your husband there alone or with guys? We all know that if there is female servers and a female bartenders they can get flirty with men to enhance the tips, not all but some. Its kind of early to be at the bar already. Maybe you need to have a talk with him and ask that he doesnt go without you and you wont go without him, but if he continues to go without you then you feel free to go without him. Dont give ultimatums, just discuss it with him.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:17pm PDT

  I have read some of your past posts just now, how long have you been married? It seems you have afew issues with your hubby. I hope you get it all resolved. :)

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  Posted by Cheryl L. Fri Jul 3, 2009 11:43am PDT

  Who is he to allow or not allow you. It's only a double standard if you allow it. Let him know that if he doesn't stop going to the pickup joints, then you'll just assume that it is now ok that you start going out with your friends. However, don't go overboard. If he goes out for 2 hours, you go out for 2 hours. Don't stay till closing if that's not what he does. Sorry, this is just what I would do.

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  Posted by Cheryl L. Fri Jul 3, 2009 11:48am PDT

  We'll, I must say this as well. If you are going to talk to him. Which I'm sure you will. Tell him exactly what you wrote us. "That you wouldn't mind if he went to a sports bar." However, be aware that women go there also. Sports Bars are not a Men Only establishment. And Hey, most restuarants have bars as well. Perhaps he could have hung out there while he waited for you.

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  Posted by Aj Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:03pm PDT

  Hey lady just wanted to say thank you for commenting on what I said! Do stop by at anytime!

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