My friend and I have been hanging out a lot lately (past 2 Months, she just transferred), and I have slowly developed feelings for her. We are only in college just to give a view of things we do.We spend times cooking for each other, watch movies, scroll the beach together , go to dances together as each other’s date (not hand in hand but as “friends”) talked about relationships and what we each look for in a partner. I even take care of her when she gets drunk and starts yacking ( twice now). she even asked me to come to family oriented events such as family vacation for new years with her cuz all her sisters brings their boyfriends! talk about hitting signals! We found out that our personalities are the same. Family Oriented, Hard working, same goals in life, very similar interests.
I even introduced her to my siblings which I have never done so before with past girlfriends b/c I don’t want my family to be disappointed or someone they may not approve of. Another big thing is I invited her to come with me to a family/sibling vacation in July as I am very close to my siblings and wanted her to come. It was actually my sister’s idea to ask her to come so I asked and she gladly accepted. My siblings are all bringing their girl/boyfriends besides me so that’s why I invited her and I wouldn’t normally invite just anyone but this girl is special. Im not the type of college guy who goes around looking to get laid more of a long-term relationship (I only had 1 real relationship in my life. Been single for 6 years now due to not wanting to waste time with relationships I believed will not work) kind of guy and based off her personality I have a sense she knows I like her because of a scenario that happened.
My good friend jokingly said to her one day when I wasn’t around “you better not play my homie __________!” and she responds by saying “You don’t even understand. We are just friends”
I just don’t get it. With all the mixed signals? She likes me doesn’t she? Ive asked numerous friends and they all said that I should just tell her I like her. But my mind set is “what if she doesn’t like me? What if im in the friends zone? ” I believe that would devastate me just because of all the mixed signals she sends. Then it will be awkward because we share ALL the same group of college friends which we hang out a lot on a daily basis. Our group of friends are mostly all guys and the few girls are actually my best friends from high school which she befriended as well. There is one guy who use to like her a lot which is actually one of my new good friends but she already made it clear he never has a chance with her (which I find funny cuz he just not b/f material haha). But they are close friends now and do not see each other anything more then that due to he has moved on to dating other girls.
Anyways, sorry for the long post but I had to make it clear so you can understand the situation I am in. I need some advice from others outside my friends about whether I should tell her I like her and see where it goes. But the hard part is the rejection is it really worth it to find out if she feels the same? I just can’t stop thinking about her. And if she says “we should just be friends. Maybe in time will tell” will it still be awkward when we go on vacation together in Hawaii? Should I just wait til after Hawaii? But I’m afraid by that time its too late? Is she just playing games with me and waiting for me to make my move? I analyze these kinds of things for a living haha but I can’t seem to solve my own problems. Please any advice will help!
