My 4 Visual Deal Breakers

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  Posted by chet Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:53am PDT

  First impressions do really apply for women who want to find a guy they want to date... It doesn't mean that a guy should be really neat. Be smart and presentable. Some men are fashion conscious...

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  Posted by Vannessa Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:54am PDT

  there are 2 out of the 4 items that definately hit home for me. First off a man with bad posture sends a signal that they're not confident with themselves, and possibly with they're proformance in the bed room. Not a very big turn on, you see women like to know that they're man is as self assured as they are, it makes them feel better about themselves.

  Secondly Holes: Holes leave the impression of not only being unable to pay to buy a new pair of shoes, but also a sense of being unclean and unhealthy. psychologically women and men are instinctually looking for a mate that will prove to be a provider and a good father/mother. Because of this instinct, women want a man that looks like he can take care of himself. It shoes everything from ambition to sensitivity...

  Now thats food for thought!

  --Vv

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  Posted by TJ S Tue Jul 7, 2009 6:14am PDT

  I wouldn't worry about it. I have looked what I felt was my worst and gotten more women than when I was dressed up. Women seem to have a fear of a guy dressed well.

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  Posted by ladybella04 Tue Jul 7, 2009 7:02am PDT

  I think you are being too hard on yourself. Plus, other than the nailbiting, those are somewhat easy fixes. You can buy new shoes, get a haircut and lay out your clothes/use the lint roller the night before you wear them. Also,if you don't really want to change, don't rule out girls who like you are a little messy or have clothes that are a bit worn. There's someone for everyone.

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  Posted by slam Tue Jul 7, 2009 8:59am PDT

  A disheveled appearance may lead one to think you don't care about hygiene. If you chew your nails because of anxiety, that may lead one to think you aren't well adjusted and can't handle life's ups and downs. It's okay to be quirky, but not if your quirks are a sign that there may be something wrong with you on a deeper level.

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  Posted by AnnMarie Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:33am PDT

  Come on Rich! Use some common sense. Would you want to date someone that looks like they just rolled out of bed all the time???? Men like it when a woman takes pride in her appearance, (I don't mean those very high maintenace kind of women) but us gals that look clean and put together. Why would you think we wouldn't want the same thing?? Your apartment should be clean too, not Spic and Span clean with expensive furniture, but at very least tidy and odor free. we like to feel comfortable if we are going to spend time there.

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  Posted by InLove Tue Jul 7, 2009 10:41am PDT

  I agree with the posture more than anything else. Cat hair is almost impossible to avoid, and I bite my fingernails because of OCD. The shoes, well, my husband and most guys out there are the same as you. Just stand up straight and look confident and that will help the most.

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  Posted by sun2go Tue Jul 7, 2009 10:54am PDT

  A nailbiting man is a man who doesn't know how to deal with his stress. Avoid him. A man's hands are a good indicator of who he is. If he doesn't take care of them, it says something about he feels about himself. A man who works with his hands for a living may have rough-looking hands, but if they're clean & well kept, he's worth checking into. A man with a desk job has NO excuse for bad hands & nails.

  Flipflops & other trashy shoes, lose em. What a man stands on represents his foundation. If he's standing in flimsy shoes, it says something about his stability, assuredness, and position. Actually, his lack thereof.

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  Posted by Doktor Eevol Tue Jul 7, 2009 11:50am PDT

  Hmmmm none of those are deal breakers for me. I grew up dirt poor so I know what it's like to have clothes that have holes in them. Attitude is more important to me.

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  Posted by Jeanne Tue Jul 7, 2009 12:55pm PDT

  I wouldn't worry so much about biting your nails, although this can be unattractive, I know because I do it too. I would pt your efforts into your posture and your fuzzy clothing. All around it makes you look like less of an ape :)

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