my girlfriend cheated on me and i let her back how can i know if shes cheating again

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  Posted by David Thu Nov 5, 2009 6:59pm PST

  If she cheated once, she will do it again. Your best bet is to let her go and find someone who doesn't cheat.

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  Posted by supersonicstarshinegoddess Thu Nov 5, 2009 7:20pm PST

  i agree with David on dis one

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  Posted by KittyKat Thu Nov 5, 2009 7:21pm PST

  I agree with what David said. Once a cheater always a cheater. I know the saying is not always true but in my book it is. You did it once who's to say you wont do it again.

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  Posted by Aaron Michael Thu Nov 5, 2009 7:29pm PST

  You don't ever know if someone will betray you. There are signs but noone can ever tell for sure.

  Trust is a volatile thing. Different people manage betrayal differently. You could move on and leave the past as it is or allow the past wound to fester.

  My advice is if you are in a state where you find it hard to trust her again, then don't be with her as your mistrust will ultimately have you do things that will eventually drive a wedge between both of you e.g. paranoia or insecurity.

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  Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Thu Nov 5, 2009 8:16pm PST

  WHEN WE FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE, WE DON'T WANT THAT FEELING TO END FOR IT'S EVERYTHING WE ARE, EVERYTHING THAT WE WANTED TO BE. WE PRAY THAT LOVE WILL STAY AND GROW IN OUR HEARTS BUT IF IT DOESN'T THEN WE SHOULD NEVER LET OUR LIVES BE TAKEN BY IT, FOR LIFE SHOULD NOT END WHERE HEARTACHES BEGIN. U HAVE DONE YOUR PART, U GAVE HER 2ND CHANCE & IF SHE' WILL JUST THROW IT AWAY AGAIN, LET HER AND FREE YOURSELF FROM SUCH RELATIONSHIP. goodluck!

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  Posted by BIll Hughs Thu Nov 5, 2009 9:49pm PST

  I wouldn't say once a cheater always a cheater or always an 'anything'. However, this is who she 'probably' is currently. One of the most sage bits of advice is not to try and change anyone. Accept people for who they are, do not judge, do not change.

  My final advice is why rush into a committed relationship with her, take your time and just date her. Let her know its not committed. It wiill then keep things fun, and your relationship will actually have a chance to take its time and flourish. During that time you can let her know in a non pressure way what you are looking for (someone you can trust).

  Bill

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  Posted by urassismine2 Thu Nov 5, 2009 10:18pm PST

  Your lady has issues. If you really want your own happiness, you need to internalize your own common sense. If you've got money,..she has money. If you have a roof,..she has a roof. If you are a sucker,..then she has a sucker...Your call, man..it takes courage to to overcome what you think you need...

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  Posted by CrazyDoug Fri Nov 6, 2009 6:53am PST

  Taking her back was truly noble, and I commend you for it. Just make sure she understands that if she ever strays again, it's over. Also, make sure that you forgive her before you continue with life as usual. It's not fair for eitehr of you to have you hanging this over her ehad, or her threatening to do it again. That isn't a relationship, that's blackmail. You need to trust her, if you can't, tell her you need time. If you still can't, let her go.

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  Posted by Wayne Thu Nov 12, 2009 9:08am PST

  sorry to tell you this but once a cheater always a cheater.

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