Dear Rihanna,
When I heard about the altercation involving you that escalated to domestic violence, needless to say I was concerned. Just knowing that you were forced to call police on someone who stated that they LOVED you and CARED about you can be terrifying. Especially since that person deliberately wounded you, physically, emotionally and spiritually. You must have been terrified as he punched you and bit you and then drove off leaving you stranded in the darkness of the night.
It must have been terrifying wondering he was going to go stop. Did you think at any time that he would kill you? How did it make you feel knowing you were being forced to fight back in order to stay alive?
Rhianna, I hope you during better now; what you went through is a lot to recover from.
I asked myself and countless friends and strangers, “What kind of man would set about to harm a woman in that manner? Overwhelmingly, the answers were: (a) a coward (b) a punk (c) an abuser (d) a charming abuser (e) a guy who thinks her as a RIGHT to control his women… sorta like a pimp. Of course some people made distasteful jokes and others claimed you were to blame. Some people said that you should give him another chance and others said you should dump him and never look back. I know a lot of things have got to be going through your mind right about now.
Should I take him back?
Can I trust him?
What if he abuses me again?
What will my fans think?
What will the girls who look up to me think?
Rhianna, right now the most important thing is your safety and your future. I’ll break it down for you what I mean. Will you feel safe being with him knowing that he could explode on you at any moment? What’s going to happen if you make him mad again? Is he going to haul off and slap, punch or bite you? What if another girl or woman wants to steal him from you and you know they are going top try. Is that going to spark another verbal outburst or physical assault?
When I saw the pictures of your wounds and bruises I said to
myself, "My God, he hit you in the head… could have killed
you!" Your bruised face reminded me of how love can go wrong.
Rhianna, some girls go through what you went through and they stand
by their man. The problem is; they end up living in constant fear.
Wondering if he’s going to get upset for some reason and start
wailing on them again.
In reality, that’s a terrible way to live.
On the other extreme there are the women who have a chip on their
shoulder and have got something to prove. You know the type? They
go around boasting what a strong woman they are and how they know
how to handle themselves. They rant and rave that if a man
ever hits them; it’s on because they can fight like a man!
Rhianna, both of those choices are terrible ways to be in a supposedly loving relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are a famous star are not. You shouldn’t have to live like that!
I suggest that you pull away from any love interests at the moment and seek mental and emotional healing. Find out what true love is and once you learn that, seek to be with someone who will cause your love blossom. That night in LA, when he abandoned you on the streets after that beating should be all the signs that you need. I hope that you ponder my words and know they come from my heart with love.TC
