My Love Hate Relationship With the Instrument Man

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  Posted by fiction Sun May 10, 2009 3:41am PDT

  "many-many meanings of what each person understand by being happy..."

  Ok, unfortunately I can't accomplish his desires. I don't know, probably because I am already immune on requests witch starts with "I want". To make this situation much more funny think about to an iceberg witch has started to melt in the love warm waters. But this process could take hundreds of years so what I'm trying basically to do, is to provide ways on taking this iceberg in your home collection: today or even tomorrow if you want.

  He told to you: "We want sex to be for its own sake, because you find us sexy and desirable." and after this has spoke about ego's and how ego's should not be.

  Oh, please... my question is in witch world the ego's should not be, because in this world I see ego's almost anywhere.

  Anything witch starts with "I want" presume the power by definition ... An object of desire witch should belong to a person.

  Another form is: "I need" and "this should be". As effect, if somebody else doesn't need this, then they should not do this. But, at the same time, if somebody else needs this, then they should feel free to do it.

  Please let me to relate you a story.

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  A person has a plantation of rice. When he has finished his work, the chief of that village told him.

  - There is not needed rice!

  - "But what I should do with all the rice I planted for", asks the villager

  - Sorry pal, it is not my concern but I can give you a hint: you should plant cereals.

  The villager planted on his land: cereals.

  When he finished to plants the cereals and the cereals were ready to be collected, the chief of that village told the villager.

  - Fine, fine, excellent job. Now...

  - I should go with the cereals on the market place...

  - Nope, you should plant more cereals and you should deposit the first cereals production.

  - But, chief I don't have lands anymore...

  - Sorry pal, it is not my concern. I just try to give you a hint...

  The villager starts to buy some extra lands and he plants extra cereals on all the land.

  When he finished to plants the cereals and the cereals were ready to be collected, the chief of that village told the villager.

  - Fine, fine, excellent job. Now...

  - I should finally go with the cereals on the market place...

  - Nope, you should give your cereals to me and I will get a nice deal for you.

  After a while, the chief returned to the villager and told him...

  - Sorry pal, I have to give you some bad news. The cereals transport was attacked and you lost all the cereals...

  - "And now, what I should do?", asks the villager.

  - You should sell me your lands, you should give me your wife, your house and you should work for me. I am a generous kind and I will give you for this, in exchange of what your work should be in the future for me ... a nice deal: cereals and rice to eat for the rest of your life...

  - But how, from where you have the power to buy all of these?

  - Well my poor friend, didn't told you anybody? I won on lottery lots of money" told the chief to the villager, and started to laugh.

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  Call me crazy or "ego man" but I think that I have lots-lots of cereals and rice... left, all hidden in secret places... for harsh days. Now, we can talk about the platefuls of consumers or we can talk about the chief's staff desires. For me is the same... lol

  Did anybody have some milk?

  lol

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  Posted by fiction Sun May 10, 2009 10:26am PDT

  "beautiful minds :-)"

  *****

  - We don't have any other choice.

  Never send a human to do a machine's job.

  If the insider has failed...

  ...they'll sever the connection as soon as possible, unless...

  They're dead. In either case...

  We have no choice. Continue as planned.

  Deploy the sentinels.

  Immediately.

  - Morpheus, you were more than a leader to us. We'll miss you always.

  - I don't believe this is happening.

  - Neo, this has to be done.

  - Does it?

  I don't know.

  This can't be just coincidence.

  - What?

  - She told me this would happen.

  She told me that I would have to make a choice.

  - What choice?

  - What are you doing?

  - I'm going in.

  - No, you're not.

  - I have to.

  Neo, Morpheus sacrificed himself so that we could get you out.

  There is no way that you're going back in.

  Morpheus did what he did because he believed I'm something I'm not.

  I'm just another guy.

  - This is loco. They've got Morpheus in a military-controlled building.

  Even if you somehow got inside, those are agents holding him. Three of them!!!

  - Morpheus believed something, and he was ready to give his life for it.

  I understand that now. That's why I have to go.

  - Why?

  - Because I believe in something.

  - What?

  - I believe I can bring him back.

  - What are you doing?

  - Going with you.

  - No, you're not.

  - "No"? Let me tell you what I believe.

  Morpheus means more to me than he does to you.

  I believe if you are serious about saving him, you will need my help.

  And since I am the ranking officer... if you don't like it, I believe you can go to hell.

  Because you aren't going anywhere else.

  Tank... load us up.

  - Can you hear me, Morpheus? (the agent)

  I'm going to be honest... with you.

  blah blah blah

  blah blah

  blah

  I must get out of here.

  I must get free.

  And in this mind is the key.

  My key.

  Once Zion is destroyed, there is no need for me to be here.

  Do you understand?

  I need the codes.

  I have to get inside Zion...

  ...and you have to tell me how.

  You're going to tell me...

  ...or you're going to die.

  *****

  PS

  I know that is not fair to use this, but is fun or at least it should be. :-)

  lol

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  Posted by instrumentjamlord Mon May 11, 2009 11:27am PDT

  Dear Andrea,

  I hope I'm helpful. I'm sorry I'm painful. I know my writing style can be more than a little prickly. I will try to tone it down. You are brave to be writing publicly about a raw topic.

  To make it worse, I have no idea what to tell you to do, only what -not- to do. That tends to limit my comments to criticising things that obviously (to me, at least) won't work. I don't have a lot of specific things to suggest: Just do this thing, or say that thing, or schedule this time, and everything will turn out okay. Boy, I wish I had -that- set of answers!

  Part of the reason I don't have good suggestions is that, as far as I can tell, a lot of what needs to happen will need to occur -- no, not "occur," more like "evolve" -- inside your (and Rex's) heads. You are in a difficult place. How does one MAKE something happen naturally? And yet that's exactly what I'm saying you need to do with your sex life. That's part of what makes it so irksome, is that you are faced with doing something that can't simply be put on the calendar and done and accomplished. It involves a thorough rediscovery of yourself, your attitudes, your assumptions. Your deepest relationships flow out of who you are, not some set of behaviors one can pick and choose out of a self-help book. (Note: I'm not saying you do that; you've never mentioned self-help books or anything like that. Just saying it is a very complex, difficult, personal, and probably painful thing to undertake.)

  Certainly there are ways in which my ignorance of your life makes what I say way off target for your situation. Not to mention ways in which my own experiences color my comments (especially the snarkier ones)incorrectly for you. Feel free to ignore what appears to be me missing information, or misreading your humor (or even me having a bad day, though I really need to keep that to myself), but of course you already knew that.

  I really do applaud you for trying, even though I spend a disproportionate amount of time yelling, "No, no, not like THAT!"

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  Posted by None Mon May 11, 2009 12:26pm PDT

  Stop putting your whole freakin' PERSONAL life out there for weirdos to comment on, then you won't get so worked up over these plp who know don't live in your shoes giving you advice, and stop taking it seriously, or you have just added more WORRIES to your plate besides the ones you already have!!! I think your husband is being selfish, I hope he helps you out with your kids and is there emotionally for you with the other issues going on, and he expects you to be giddy about freaking him, I'm never getting married!

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  Posted by None Mon May 11, 2009 3:08pm PDT

  One other thing: He reads your blogs and agrees with the idiot above, yet you can't communicate right then and there, what is bugging ya'll? Strange!

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  Posted by Andrea Frazer, Good Housekeeping Tue May 12, 2009 11:52am PDT

  Hi -

  As usual, Instrument Jam Lord says it best.

  As for None, sure, Rex reads my blogs. It's also how I make my living. He's proud of me. I think that marriage is awesome, but sometimes it's not always easy. I feel like if I'm going to write, I'm going to be honest - warts and all. (Not those kinds of warts!) People want a quick fix. If you're ever unhappy, they say to get out, or your husband is cheating. Bull. I KNOW I'm not alone in wanting to find balance between what I need, what Rex needs, and that elusive organic place.

  I'll keep writing if people will keep reading. And yeah, I sometimes get worked up by public comments, but honestly, not that much. I know who I am. Thanks!

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