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  Posted by KM Wed Jul 30, 2008 12:17pm PDT

  I look at all those things on craigslist for a good laugh. I'm in a committed relationship and completely in love with my boyfriend and have no desire to be with anyone else. Only you know how your relationship is, and if it's shaky, then I'd be worried. If it's not, who cares, as long as he's not responding to any of the ads. Shoot, I send my boyfriend porn links sometimes, if I think he'll like the girl. I'm not worried.

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  Posted by Fae Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:05pm PDT

  It would be one thing if you looked at them together and laughed but he was looking at them alone. I would give him the benefit of the doubt but keep your eyes open...

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  Posted by ambi Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:18pm PDT

  There is a big difference between looking, and emailing/posting...

  Sometimes I look for fun, but never with the intention of contacting or posting, just reading to see what is around me (people wise).

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  Posted by battling_heart Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:40pm PDT

  I don't think there is any need for you to put up your guard. I look at them and my hubby looks at them as well. Some of them are rather funny. They can make you really appreciate what you do have. If he was truly looking and seeking, he would of made sure that it stayed hidden by any and all means.

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  Posted by claudizzle6 Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:43pm PDT

  My guy does that too. I caught him through his email and asked him about it and he completely denied THE WHOLE THING even though I had proof. It doesn't really matter because I know he just looks but would never follow through with anything. Those posts are so gross though. For me its nothing to worry about, hopefully it is for you too. =)

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  Posted by Single Girl Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:06pm PDT

  Believe him .....but If he says anymore comments like that .....thats when you should be on guard .....thats what I think if besides this he has not given you any reason to mistrust him then trust him for the time being.

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  Posted by bahbah526 Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:11pm PDT

  I went through the same thing with my current boyfriend of 8 years. I was completely shocked and couldn't understand why he would even be remotely interested in something like that. We have a great relationship and he's crazy about me. After talking to many of my guy friends I concluded a lot of the time guys are just curious and don't really mean any harm or intent. You just have to follow your "Women's Intuition" and look at the whole picture.

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  Posted by kaliluna Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:15pm PDT

  I think you need to talk to him. Communication is key in a relationship and if you don't talk about this you could remain hurt and suspicious about his future behavior. Let him know how hurt you were when you saw that and ask him how he would feel if he found out you were looking for guys. If he is as honest as you say he is and he tells you again that he was just doing it to remind himself how lucky he is, then believe him but make sure he understands that that behavior is hurtful to you, and explain why. He probably will stop doing it when he realizes how it has affected you. My husband and I have had several conversations around things like this (although not exactly the same situations) and we have both changed for each other. It's not a bad thing, it's about growing closer and taking the other person into consideration. You might find that you keep your guard up anyway, it's natural after feeling hurt like that, but it should go down as you and your boyfriend keep the lines of communication open.

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  Posted by krazyvettegirl Wed Jul 30, 2008 2:53pm PDT

  Dump Him!! If he was innocent he would have already told u about it! Now ur just going to keep wondering and worrying! It's not worth it. Unless u can forgive and forget the whole thing ever happened. Goodluck!

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  Posted by bailey.22cal Wed Jul 30, 2008 3:04pm PDT

  you know.... if you trust him just keep it that way :) if you decide to put a guard up then it's just going to make the relationship harder. The truth is if he wants to cheat there is nothing you can do about it and you WILL find out eventually. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. And who knows... he may be one of those honest guys and you'll just be pushing away a good thing with your own insecurities. I know first hand. So love with everythign you have until he gives you a REAL reason to stop =)

  Good luck!

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