My reason for...........

         Okay so when I hear the word sex the first thing that pops into my head is two people doing it and the guy is doing it just to be cool and for the fun of it. He is just using the girl and if he hurts her feelings he doesn’t care. For the girl I see her doing it cause she wants to and to please the guy. Getting pregnant doesn’t cross her head. I see her using the boy but there are days when I see the girl get hurt cause she really did care for the guy. The question that pops into my head is why do it? Okay yeah its AMAZING and it’s the best thing in the world and so on.  I have been asked this question at least a million times which is are you virgin? YES I AM!  I remember when I said that to a group of guys that I could tell the only reason they were talking to me was to hopefully get it out of me. When I told them I am there leader said “She ain’t afraid to say the truth and she ain’t ashamed to be one either .”  When I heard that the first thing that went to my head was okay why would I be afraid to say it and why would/should I be ashamed of be a virgin? Is it a crime to still be a virgin in your teen years? For one thing I am PROUD  to be a virgin!  For me been a virgin and staying that way is really important to me. The reason why is cause I don’t want to be like my birth mom. So many people have told me that I am not her and I am not going to be her. Okay I get that. I am not calling her a hoe or slut but I am not calling her the brightest person either. I don’t want to have sex just to have it. I don’t want to be one of those girls that do it with what ever guy that comes her way. I don’t to be one of those girls that have done it with a million different guys and not regret it. I don’t want to do it with some guy that meant the world to me but to him I meant nothing and get my feelings hurt. Okay so a few people have told me this your a teenager you should experiment  a little bit or some have told me you should listen to your body.  Here’s another thing to add I don’t want to have sex cause I don’t want to be like the women that had ME the reason for it is cause growing up I have always felt like I was a MISTAKE in her life. I get the fact that I wasn’t but I feel like she had sex just to have sex and if she got pregnant is like oh what ever its just an easier way to have sex with out a condom and not have to worry about getting pregnant cause I already am! I don’t want to have a child at 19, 20, 21, and what ever age that I am not married at. The reason for it cause I don’t want MY child to feel like they were a mistake in my life and I don’t want them to feel like I didn’t  want them . I don’t want my child to feel the way I feel.  I know that if I do get pregnant before marriage I will do everything possible to keep my child from feeling the pain I do.  I have so many guys try and talk me into doing it with them when they should know that my answer will never change until the day I say “I DO” to the person that I know I can trust to do it with cause he won’t use me nor will he leave me for some other chick that can do it way better than I can or just because we aren’t doing enough times during a week or a month or what ever. If you are a virgin in this world and you want to stay that way STAY THAT WAY! You have nothing to be ashamed of and don’t let pressure get to you and don’t listen to those people who say you aren’t cool cause you aren’t doing it.  To me been a VIRGIN is the coolest thing in the world and NO ONE  can ever take that away from you! BE PROUD TO BE A VIRGIN!